The Real Reason Why No Contact Is So Powerful

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No contact works 100% If they come back you win ! If they don't come back, you win better !! 😃

“Going on dates”. I didn’t spend my life making myself the best version of myself and able to provide the most secure, happy, and safe relationship just to be treated like an option by someone who can’t bring the same to the table

Rejection breeds obsession, this is a natural psychological reaction that no one is immune to.

I've been in No Contact for 2.5 years after she walked away and so far not a peep from her. I will remain in No Contact forever! Her loss!

Wait till you no longer want them and block them everywhere. That's when the fun really begins. They don't think you will be strong enough to move on, but oh wait when you do. I blocked the shyt out of my ex.

If they come back it means nobody else wanted them 😂😂😂

Lucia, I realize someone might never come back, but I agree with your advice. You MUST be a hardliner about this. None of answering every text because they will walk away if you don't. I've heard dating coaches say this and it's garbage. I heard Coach Lee say the other day that after 3 months you're toast and move on. Again, that's garbage. A friend told me a story about a couple she knew. The guy just would not commit to the girl. She ended the relationship and took a hard stance. 4 months later he returned and they were engaged and later married. He now says he didn't know what his ever-lovin' problem was. Uhm-hmm. Yeah. I appreciate your positive attitude about this and prefer to take your advice for the sake of dignity if nothing else. Lastly, I had a relationship with a guy and we were struggling over a couple of issues. He finally got mad and told me to go away which I did with sadness. I didn't pursue him or wait after. A couple of years later I was one month away from marrying. He walked into my work at lunch to tell me I was right and that he wanted to reconcile with me. He was a good guy, but unfortunately it was too late. Would I sit around waiting for years for someone? No. My point is that there is really no deadline for someone to return to you.

Sometimes your silence doesn’t do anything I’m sorry to say. I haven’t spoken to my ex in three years and through the grapevine she’s in another relationship. It is what it is sometimes

After being in no contact I don't want him, he's co-dependent and unattractive. I'm very fit and slim he is not. I don't need him and can do better. 💕

You are breaking it down!!! This is exactly correct and is happening to me right now!!! Even though I'm the one the messed the situation up....wow having a drink after 8mo no contact, "accidentally" called me, to running into each other at a party, now meeting up next week....amazing

5 months NC. She’s an extreme Dismissive Avoidant.

Rejection breeds obsession.

it's been 5 years of silence ... how about I just accept that she literally doesn't give a shit about me, and likely hasn't even thought of me in the past 4 years once.

Ghosting is the ultimate spit in the face. My anguish has turned to pure vitriol. How dare a human being play the deep love game and ghost you the very next day.

Mine came back but still full of herself and disrespectful and not even apologising/blaming me for her being unfaithful. The funny thing is I just felt disgusted. Her old manipulative tactics to my surprise had no effect on me anymore.

Lucia, this is your best video. One of the best through the whole field of "no contact" flying around youtube but, definitely, the best of you. Marterpieces happen, no? Maybe just once in a lifetime, but they come up. Congratulations and respects, from Brazil (I speak portuguese, english is just passion full of grammatical errors).

I hope so because I miss him so much and want him to act right and come correct. 6 weeks NC, 3rd round of NC.

Thanks again. 😀 😀 😀

“There is no love. At least, not from their side. Because if they loved you, they would not have given up, they would not have broken up with you. They would have found a way to fix whatever wasn’t working.” Was that Confucius? No. It was Lucia. 😉