These Triggers Are Telltale Signs You Were Neglected and Ostracized in Childhood

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there have been many times over the years where I have felt that life was a huge elaborate game where everyone else has a copy of the rule book except me.

53 years old and still struggling with trying to fit in..

"...offering ourselves and getting overlooked..." Oh yeah, I prefer to be alone than to suffer being ignored one more time.

Shamed for being bothered is basically the whole time at school.

Betrayal is a big part of that wound. Very hard to trust anyone.

I am still ostracized and neglected as an adult. Nothing has changed. Especially being neurodivergent!

I have CPTSD and developed BPD as well (fun combination that). The worst is that my parents neglected me because of my younger brother. My younger brother (who is the golden child) was diagnosed with autism at a time when cases were exploding and there was really no support groups or even understanding. Our parents were told that my brother probably would never learn how to tie his shoes on his own. My parents sat me down at 11 years old, told me what he had and that it would be my job when they died to take care of him. I remember thinking "What if I don't want to take care of him?" I got thrown under the bus. I had to watch as my parents doted and fussed over my brother and I had to learn how to do things on my own. I then realized if I got good grades, I'd get recognized. My freshman year in high school, I got 7 A's and one B (the B was in my weakest course). Instead of being proud that I got 7 A's, my father asked why that B was a B. I spiraled and barely passed high school. When I finally confronted my parents after decades of being shunned and neglected, I was given the runaround. But fortunately, my Mom has come around and realized that she screwed up big time. We've repaired our relationship but the damage was done. If you have children with special needs and their siblings are (for lack of a better term) normal...do NOT neglect them. Don't leave them to figure it out on their own. Children are resilient, yes. But they need support and care during this time. Otherwise, you're going to hurt them in the long run.

Neglected, no. Ostracized, as in bullied in school. YES.

I don’t need a tell .. I’m at a point now , I’m old and want to be left alone . People rarely give & often take .

I went from wanting to b excepted. To not caring if i fit in. To not even trying to fit in, amd just being myself. And im doing just fine. All my hobbies are solitairy. Im very skilled at my highly social job.

I was neglected and to this day I neglect myself. Life feels like way too much work.

I'm very prickly when it comes to people thinking I don't know things. Unsolicited advice is not my thing.

The tricky thing for me is that yes, I have had an absent parent which leads to a lot of those triggers that you mentioned, but on top of it all, I'm also autistic. Which brings real ostracization for no other reason than you being "weird," and never really fitting in. Which is retraumatizing when you're already susceptible to having an emotional trigger with peers.

It has gotten to the point that I no longer have friends really. I stopped reaching out. I don’t hang out with coworkers because I quit my job. I don’t talk to my family except my sister. I just want to be alone all the time now. I’m so terrified to push the one true friend I have away or constantly have this fear that I am annoying or too much. I have always had such unhealthy attachment and so now take so long to open up and connect with people. I have been in therapy and learned so many coping skills but I feel like something just stopped. I thought I was doing so well.

No, I feel left out because I'm constantly being left out.

I was the golden child. Life choices changed that. Mom died last summer. Ashamed of me. I NEVER fit in my family. My friend group. No LTR, at 49. Not even one friend. No career no kids no husband. Im scared. Ive ruined my life. I only know loneliness, osterisized, pain, judgement and victim mentality. I was extremely gifted as a child. Now, life has ran its course. I gave up on people pleaser style years ago. And since then have pushed literally everyone away.

Im pretty sure my peers think Im weird. I even got a complaint at work, despite all the other workers being more 'touchy' or 'louder' than me at joking/kidding around. Man.... that really peeved me off. At 59, I have no friends or any social life. Im lucky I go to work to mix with people but now Im even more reserved than before.

I have struggled my whole life with ALL of these triggers. I’m pretty certain I was neglected both emotionally, academically, and somewhat physically as a child. And on top of that my dad died with I was 14, which led to a whole other type of neglect from my mother throughout my teenage years. I have felt like there is something inherently wrong with me my whole life and I have never been able to pinpoint WHY I felt this way, but seemingly nobody else did. I’m so glad to have found your channel. It’s given me a sense of belonging and motivation that I can actually get better! Thank you!

My mother always gave off a VERY strong negative vibration towards her family, and yet not around strangers. It was so difficult on my father, brother and myself, and even my mother's parents (my grandparents) and her siblings (aunts and uncles).