MUST-erbating 3 thinking patterns that lead to depression or anxiety #shorts #mentalhealth
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Published 2023-07-09
Albert Ellis was a famous American psychologist who developed Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), which is kinda CBT’s daddy, REBT is the Madonna to cognitive-behavioral therapy’s Lady Gaga. In his theory, Ellis identified 3 "musts'' that people often hold, which can contribute to emotional distress. And that’s what CBT is all about- changing thinking patterns to improve your mental health.
The "musts" are a set of rigid, absolute beliefs that people hold about themselves, others, and the world around them. There are three main "musts" in Ellis's theory, which are:
"I must do well and be approved of by everyone I meet. Or else I’m no good.”
“Others must treat me fairly and kindly and always consider my feelings. If they do not treat me this way, they are not good people and deserve to be punished.”
“I must always get what I want, when I want it. And if I don’t, I’m miserable”
CBT skills
cognitive distortions
#cbt #therapy #mentalhealth
All Comments (21)
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That name is the worst 😂
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Thank you for this. So important! Especially with so much social media and social approval “requirements” that happen this day in age. I needed to hear this tonight. Hard not to give our power to our closest friends or those we love who we feel ‘disapproval’ from. 🙏
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I love this but where are the other two?
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thank you- i need these reminders! they recallibrate my thinking and restore balance 🥰
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This is exactly what I needed to hear today, thank you!
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@TherapyInANutshell Thank you for this helpful info called MUST-erbation... Thank you for all the hard work you share your valuable ideas & knowledge of how to deal with daily issues that we may experience as we go through life. I hope all is going well with you 🙏
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Agreed with everything you said. Albert Ellis was REBT though which is still super helpful. I teach it to clients
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I opened the video and at the beginning I was shocked by the fact that this theme was first time approached in your video. It took me some time to think otherwise!
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Yeap, I love the name and I connect with this first one. Looking forward to the other two. Thank you, Emma. 😍 I love how your content helps us make sense of our emotions and thoughts.
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My parents created a lot of my lifelong depression by insisting from the time I was a little kid to be worried about what others thought of me . I was to be putting on a performance to induce others to like me I guess. - it doesn't work . Even coming to this realization in my teen years didn't help lessen the depression .
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I would have liked to hear about the other 2 patterns as well. Are you planning on doing more shorts for those?😊
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Felt this way a lot because of my cousin brother .he crticised my wvery little things .i felt so depressed .and he only came for short period of time because of his marriage.He left i got back on track .he kept crossing boundaries .i just noticed he use to bully me lot as a kid too .like i m a toy just because he is my elder brother and i cant talk back .i just realised it now .i have no respect for him anymore .
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Love this!! Must and should in thinking really create more challenges
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Great stuff, how do you make it ⛔? Have a great day! ❤
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Is there more on this? I beat myself up because of sutuatuons like these.
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Just in time! A great message for me.
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All great recipes on your channel. Thank you Chef 🙋
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Title is wack but this isn’t click-‘bait’ 😅 it’s quality content with a weird name!
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Lol not what I was expecting. Hahahaha the title funny.
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Thanks💓
