3 THINGS to do when PEOPLE STARE at YOU with BAD INTENTIONS

I was bartender/bouncer at a pretty rough dive bar for 22 years. This video has some good advice. The looking back at them with the " dead soulless eyes" trick worked for me many times, because when one of these weak men stare at you with "bad intentions", the last thing they want is to have mistakenly picked a victim that is WAY crazier than they are.

I’ve been training for 40 years. And EVERYTHING you said here is spot on. One night my wife accidentally bumped into a pregnant women in a bar. They got hot immediately. There were 15 of them, and just me. I jumped in, apologized and offered to buy a round for our mistake. I got everyone’s order and told my wife to wait by the door, I walked to the bar pretending I was ordering drinks. I told the bartender what happened. I waved to the group, gave them a thumbs up, then we left quickly before they had a chance to figure out what was going on. We were probably 5 miles out of town in our car before they realized what happened.

Over the years I’ve found it virtually IMPOSSIBLE to get in a bar fight if I DONT GO TO BARS !!!

Wrong! Take it from a guy that has been to prison for fights. Walk the f away. The loser goes to the hospital. The winner goes to prison and pays tens of thousands in medical bills. Freedom is better than validation and ego.

Also, if the guy leaves whatever place you are, be wary when you also leave the place.

When I was a kid, I never realised what my dad was doing when he would ask me, without looking, to describe a room we'd walked into and the people in it. He never actually did explain it to me, but, as I've gotten older, I reckon he was teaching me to develop my situational awareness. It's been an invaluable tool to me over the years and I hope to play the same game with my son as he grows up.

My dad was a war vet, and he's been a child through various wars as well. He always told my brothers and I not to fight. He also told us to avoid bad people, places, and things.

Great advice. You win every fight you avoid…..

A good way to avoid trouble is don't do "stupid". Don't go to stupid places at stupid times with stupid people or do stupid stuff.

My brother's friend was suckerpunched once at a party by a dude trying to impress some losers. He was k.o.'d and the dude left. But the next day he started to look for the dude until he found him and beat him up, he repeated that a couple of times when he saw the dude on the street and told him he was gonna keep doing it whenever he saw him. The dude ended avoiding going out anymore for months before asking for forgiveness.

I'm going towards my mid sixties now and I've worked on the doors and behind the bar, I've seen these drunken bullies many times. I do not back down to them, cowards. On several occasions I had blokes come up to me and say, "What you f///ing looking at". very aggressively. I just say with a smile, " I'm looking at someone who is looking at me". That throws them off. Never show fear. I am 5 ft 5 in, 11 st and jog, cycle and do weights, I've done this since I was a gymnast in the early late seventies. I have had blokes over 6 ft pick on me because of my size. They never pick on me again.

My go to is a friendly, confident greeting. Or maybe just a smile. It tells them three things right off the bat: you're paying attention, you're not a threat, and you're not afraid. Most predators will move on to easier prey, and most ego fighters prefer to have someone who'll match their belligerence.

I got bullied a lot at school and then got into martial arts: judo, karate, boxing. The confidence and calmness it gives you means that you don't even need to use it. And the physical conditioning gave me so many health benefits. Especially the boxing. And the friendships I made on the way were great, they were based on mutual respect.

I was bullied a lot as a youngster, then later began boxing and karate And something I learned is that someone coming close to you and staring you down is actually a rather simple situation to deal with (I don't mean it's easy in reality, because there are emotions involved, adrenaline dumps to deal with, etc.) but in general the situation isn't complicated. My general rule for these situations in this: 1. If I can leave, I leave. 2. If they've invaded my personal space and are so close to me that I can hit them, I hit them. 3. If they're outside of my range but are still close to me, I throw up "the fence" (putting my arms out in front of me, telling them to stay back and that I don't want any trouble or problems), and if they come closer or touch my hands/arms at all, I hit them.

1) Don’t get rattled 2) Be as calm as zen 3) Look right back 4) Enjoy the moment

I was bullied all through school. When i left i vowed never to be bullied again. I worked hard in a very physical job, built muscle and learnt that it is fear that makes you able to be brave. I worked with dangerous dogs and used kindness to calm them, but also developed a look that worked where kindness did not. In a situation knowing and being aware of what and who is around you is of paramount importance.

Rule #1. Nothing good happens after midnight

As an Iraq/Afghanistan war vet I can still when needed affect the 1000-yard stare, this blank, heartless look has helped me avoid having to cause harm to people who have singled me out for bad intent. Another key to avoiding violence is maintaining calm, a bully is looking for fear and panic. If he does not elicit the response he seeks he will more likely walk away rather than risk attacking somebody with superior skill and/or experience. This may not work if the person is crazy, blackout drunk, or on drugs as they are not using their brain anyway. Then your best bet becomes the doctrine of rapid dominance. Overwhelming force to the weakest point of the body you can reach. The eyes, the throat, the testicles, and the knee are always the best points of attack to rapidly eliminate a threat. It is not a gun that kills, it is a hard heart that kills. The same goes for the use of violence in personal defense. If a person is willing to use overwhelming force to defend themselves, that person becomes far less likely to become a target.

In school, when the bully said "I'm gonna... You break his nose before he finishes talking.

As someone who's worked in bars & clubs for 35 years now, I can honestly say without hesitation that clubs, bars, and their relative precincts are dangerous places after-dark, and especially after midnight. You might not be able to always avoid trouble during the day, but being in bars/clubs/entertainment-precincts after-dark greatly increases your chances of encountering trouble, because inebriated people have lower inhibitions are more easily provoked