How Modern Dating Became Such a Dumpster Fire (ft. Sadia Khan)

Thank you for having me ❤

The word "we" is being used a lot here. I'm a 34M, I don't personally know anyone who actually uses dating apps, most of the men I know are not going on millions of pointless dates or having random casual sex. So I'm not sure where this "we" is coming from. "We" regular guys are not doing any of that, and many of us are pretty good looking, resourceful and emotionally mature. We're just normal people, but I suspect that's exactly what our problem is.

I just love it when super attractive people, who are married to super attractive people, tell everyone that looks shouldn't be important 😂

I'll tell you why. Because everyone is getting their dating advice from the internet. Every possible nuance has been overanalysed and regurgitated as fact by every man and his dog and it's confusing the shit out of everyone

mid 30s. Spent YEARS on apps. Ghosted after 1-3 messages over and over and over. Even the fat chicks would pass. I was even successful. Just didn't weight lift and didn't focus on my appearance to the max. Just got ghosted and treated like crap for years. Weight lifted and picked up bouldering so I got muscular. Updated my photos and 8 dates within two weeks of updating my photos. At that point I was at the top of my technical field (software eng). Women just threw themselves at me. its all looks, money, status. I read 100 books in those years. Built my career to the max. And most of the women that were there were garbage. Deeply insecure, either highly anxious or anxious avoidant. Never want to go back. Found a good one and got the f out. I grew up in a good family with good values. I was always well liked. I just didn't do what other guys did and focus on my appearance. Was never a family value so I was never taught. After i got fit I had girls that i had known for years make moves. It makes me sad because i was there all along.

Met my wife on a dating app, Coffee Meets Bagel. I think what made it work was there weren’t unlimited matches or even a limited but large number of matches each day. You got one or two each day and that was it. It made you more willing to consider dates who maybe had one or a few subjective flaws, but many admirable characteristics that were attractive. Perfect isn’t flawless. Perfect isn’t ideal.

Unpopular opinion: I’m open to being in a relationship but I do feel being happily single is underrated and mostly not talked about from us single people since we’re really minding our own business ❤

A woman winked at me once. We dates for 2 years and it ended after she tried to stab me. Good times.

Interesting video content, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me. I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

The best way to meet potential romantic partners outside of apps is to develop hobbies or interests that generally draw members of the opposite sex. Almost everyone can find something they genuinely enjoy that generally draws members of the opposite sex. When I was single I tried yoga, pottery making, salsa dancing, and a book club to meet people. I found that salsa dancing and belonging to a book club were the only two of these hobbies I actually enjoyed so they were the only ones I stuck with. But I met numerous romantic partners through both hobbies before ultimately meeting my wife.

Mid 40s, been single for nearly a decade. It's normal now, and I've learned to enjoy my time alone. I spent many years struggling with discontentment and not liking who I was. Not anymore. Now, I don't have the energy, let alone desire, to "get back in the game"

I just want to meet people in real life. But in most places it’s now considered inappropriate to approach others. (Obviously I’m not catcalling anyone or any crazy stuff.) Literally just introducing myself or saying hi gets me looks of disgust or fear. 😞

Great podcast. Stop advertising garbage though. There is no way to "supercharge" your mitochondria. Neither do they need supercharging. Eat well, sleep well, and get some exercise. That is good enough.

A top model and a millionaire giving dating advice what could go wrong.

A few days ago I saw a pigeon trying to mate with a female. I told him “Bro, you got no chance, she wants you to be in finance” 😂😂😂

49:18 I find this topic so fascinating as someone dating in their late 20s right now. I think I’ve been conditioned to believe that when I’m talking to someone, if things aren’t perfect 100% of the time, it’s doomed and I should just give up and move onto the next. It’s taken me a long time to learn how to adapt to circumstances and be realistic with my expectations. It’s a really fine line to walk between respecting yourself and not compromising your values versus being realistic!

I’m with you Drew, no dating apps, social media or porn. I refuse to be part of the demand that creates that exploitative supply. Meeting women in person through friends and activities will either work or it won’t. Either outcome is perfectly acceptable.

I'm almost 21. I listened to the podcast from the start to the end and while I was at it, I cleared out all the sexual stuff I had on my phone, deleted accounts I had on sexting websites and I'm probably gonna stop social media usage. Good job Mark 👍

I wanna date people who are also into self-care and watching such videos.

They really put Drew in a losing spot there. Two "happily married" and one "happily single". HAHA 😂 Yea... we all know what "happily single" in this context means. Being in the middle of a conversation about how modern dating sucks when you know that all these advices are defacto for you because obviously Mark and Sadia are not saying them to themselves. So the underlaying setting is: two teachers, one student. It's easier for Mark obviously. Pick your battles Drew!