When Guilt Destroys our Sanity

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Published 2024-07-09
Guilt is one of the most common parental emotions. It can eat us from the inside and tear us apart. It leads us to have poor boundaries and poor presence. In this episode, Dr. Shefali helps parents understand the root of their guilt and how to overcome it.


Dr. Shefali is a NYT bestselling author of The Conscious Parent, and The Awakened Family. She is also a clinical psychologist, an international speaker and a wisdom teacher, integrating Eastern philosophy with Western psychology.

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All Comments (12)
  • Children are our awakeners!! Brilliant podcast! Got me thinking about my own siblings and then the dynamic between my own children ๐Ÿ’œ
  • This brought up a lot for myself. My middle child constantly bothered my fourth child while growing up. I was so unawakened unaware of the sadness and pain my daughter felt when her brother wouldn't let her be. Of course hindsight is 20/20 and I worked in therapy to repair my relationship with my daughter who felt she needed me more as a child. As a matter of fact I worked to better all of my relationships with my kids. Connection, to be seen and heard is all children need and desire.
  • @ioanaradu584
    This is illuminating โคThank you for your service,dr.Shefali!๐Ÿ’Œ
  • @cinderella407
    ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽˆ๐Ÿ™๐ŸŒž๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒ ๐Ÿ‘จโ€๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€๐Ÿ‘ฆ๐ŸŒ ๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒž๐Ÿ™๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰ AT THIS POINT, I CAN ... MOST CERTAINLY, MIND MY MIND ... WITH GRATITUDE, A WHOLE LOT BETTER ... NOW, ๐ŸŽˆ๐Ÿ™๐ŸŽˆOUR DIVINELY, AWESOME๐ŸŽˆ๐Ÿ™๐ŸŽˆ DR. ๐ŸŒทSHEFALI๐ŸŒท ๐ŸŽŽDOLL๐ŸŽŽ ... ๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™‚๏ธGODDESS๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™‚๏ธ๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿง˜ ๐Ÿ‘‘๐ŸŒž๐Ÿ‘‘QUEEN๐Ÿ‘‘๐ŸŒž๐Ÿ‘‘ KIND TEACHER, MA'AM ... ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽˆ๐Ÿ™๐ŸŒž๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒ ๐Ÿ‘จโ€๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€๐Ÿ‘ฆ๐ŸŒ ๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒž๐Ÿ™๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰
  • @cinderella407
    ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽˆ๐Ÿ™๐ŸŒž๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒ ๐Ÿ‘จโ€๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€๐Ÿ‘ฆ๐ŸŒ ๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒž๐Ÿ™๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰ AWW, ๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒž๐ŸฅณOUR DIVINELY, AWESOME๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒž๐Ÿฅณ DR. ๐ŸŒทSHEFALI๐ŸŒท ๐ŸŽŽDOLL๐ŸŽŽ ... ๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™‚๏ธGODDESS๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™‚๏ธ๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿง˜ ๐Ÿ‘‘๐ŸŒž๐Ÿ‘‘QUEEN๐Ÿ‘‘๐ŸŒž๐Ÿ‘‘ KIND TEACHER, MA'AM ... JUST OUT OF CURIOSITY: WHEN DO YOU SLEEP, ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿ˜˜๐ŸฅฐBELOVED๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿฅฐ ๐Ÿ‘จโ€๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€๐Ÿ‘ฆMOMMY๐Ÿ‘จโ€๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€๐Ÿ‘ฆ ... ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽˆ๐Ÿ™๐ŸŒž๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒ ๐Ÿ‘จโ€๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€๐Ÿ‘ฆ๐ŸŒ ๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒž๐Ÿ™๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰
  • @cinderella407
    ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽˆ๐Ÿ™๐ŸŒž๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒ ๐Ÿ‘จโ€๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€๐Ÿ‘ฆ๐ŸŒ ๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒž๐Ÿ™๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰ ๐Ÿ˜ฎWOW๐Ÿ˜ฎ ๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒž๐ŸฅณOUR EXTRAORDINARILY, BRILLIANT๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒž๐Ÿฅณ DR. ๐ŸŒทSHEFALI๐ŸŒท ๐ŸŽŽDOLL๐ŸŽŽ ... ๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™‚๏ธGODDESS๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™‚๏ธ๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿง˜ ๐Ÿ‘‘๐ŸŒž๐Ÿ‘‘QUEEN๐Ÿ‘‘๐ŸŒž๐Ÿ‘‘ KIND TEACHER, MA'AM ... ABSOLUTELY, APPRECIATE THE ANALOGY BETWEEN SPANISH AND ENGLISH ... ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽˆ๐Ÿ™๐ŸŒž๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒ ๐Ÿ‘จโ€๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€๐Ÿ‘ฆ๐ŸŒ ๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒž๐Ÿ™๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰
  • @cinderella407
    ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽˆ๐Ÿ™๐ŸŒž๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒ ๐Ÿ‘จโ€๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€๐Ÿ‘ฆ๐ŸŒ ๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒž๐Ÿ™๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰ ๐Ÿ‘Œ OKAY ๐Ÿ‘Œ ๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒž๐ŸฅณOUR EXUBERANTLY, JOYFUL๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒž๐Ÿฅณ OUR ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿ˜˜๐ŸฅฐBELOVED๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿฅฐ ๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™‚๏ธCONSCIOUS๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™‚๏ธ๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿง˜ DR. ๐ŸŒทMOMMY๐ŸŒท, MA'AM ... WHERE HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED EVERYTHING, IN YOUR LIFE, KIND TEACHER, ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿ˜˜๐ŸฅฐDARLING๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿฅฐ ... ๐Ÿฏ๐Ÿคด๐ŸฏFROM WITHIN YOURSELF๐Ÿฏ๐Ÿคด๐Ÿฏ ... ๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™‚๏ธYAY-YAY-YAY๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™‚๏ธ๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿง˜ ... ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰๐Ÿ™๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŒž๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒ ๐Ÿ‘จโ€๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€๐Ÿ‘ฆ๐ŸŒ ๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒž๐ŸŽˆ๐Ÿ™๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰
  • @cinderella407
    ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽˆ๐Ÿ™๐ŸŒž๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒ ๐Ÿ‘จโ€๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€๐Ÿ‘ฆ๐ŸŒ ๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒž๐Ÿ™๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰ AWW, ๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒž๐ŸฅณOUR GLORIOUSLY, PHENOMENAL๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒž๐Ÿฅณ DR. ๐ŸŒทSHEFALI๐ŸŒท ๐ŸŽŽDOLL๐ŸŽŽ ... ๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™‚๏ธGODDESS๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™‚๏ธ๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿง˜ ๐Ÿ‘‘๐ŸŒž๐Ÿ‘‘QUEEN๐Ÿ‘‘๐ŸŒž๐Ÿ‘‘ KIND TEACHER, ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿ˜˜๐ŸฅฐDARLING๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿฅฐ: THE POWER TO LโคVE IS GOD'S GREATEST GIFT TO MAN FOR IT NEVER WILL BE TAKEN FROM ๐ŸŽˆ๐Ÿ™๐ŸŽˆTHE BLESSED ONE๐ŸŽˆ๐Ÿ™๐ŸŽˆ WHO LโคโคโคโคโคVES. ~KAHLIL GIBRAN
  • Having many kids is always FOR the parents, not for the children. Unless the children asked for it.
  • @cinderella407
    ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽˆ๐Ÿ™๐ŸŒž๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒ ๐Ÿ‘จโ€๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€๐Ÿ‘ฆ๐ŸŒ ๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒž๐Ÿ™๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰ AHA, ๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒž๐ŸฅณOUR EXTRAORDINARILY, BRILLIANT๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒž๐Ÿฅณ ๐Ÿง˜๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™‚๏ธCONSCIOUS๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™‚๏ธ๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿง˜ DR. ๐ŸŒทMOMMY๐ŸŒท, MA'AM ... HAS BEEN, USING PROFANITY IN MS. MAYA'S PRESENCE ๐Ÿ˜ฎWOW๐Ÿ˜ฎ ... ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽˆ๐Ÿ™๐ŸŒž๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒ ๐Ÿ‘จโ€๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€๐Ÿ‘ฆ๐ŸŒ ๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿฅณ๐ŸŒž๐Ÿ™๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽŠ๐ŸŽ‰