Understanding Men and Their Trauma with Dr. Gabor Maté | The Man Enough Podcast

I'm literally crying! I have read all of Dr. Gabor Mate's books during pregnancy and it changed my whole perspective about how to raise a child. My one year old baby is now sleeping next to me and I'm so happy because of our strong attachment relationship. So if you're wondering what you could give to parents who are expecting a child just buy them his books. A generation of deeply loving parents could change this society for the better.

“The antidote to chaos isn’t order…it’s harmony.” I love that. It reminds me of something that someone I worked with once said “From chaos comes order, but not without the cost of freedom.” Harmony would solve the problem of lack of freedom.

Love how Dr. Maté is roasting Jordan Peterson ! Priceless and so so true. JP is full of rage. GM is grounded, humble, wise and a blessing to everyone who cares enough to listen

wow. i became disabled 5 years ago, and my boyfriend of 18 years shared a text he got from a 'friend' of ours suggesting he run as 'I'm not worth the extra effort with my physical limitations.' I thought this was a friend of mine too, happens to be female. He shared it because we're no longer going to engage with this person, but the insult lingered. It swelled up inside of me and started to consume my beliefs about myself. It was so easy for me to let her infect my beliefs about myself. I'm changing this belief right now. I am enough.

I love this man. A gift to humanity.

As a male therapist, still healing myself, I want to say thank you so much for putting this together. I have been aware of Gabor for several years, but i have avoided reading him for fear of retraumatising myslef having worked in the caring profession for 24+ years, as well as my own traumatic childhood. I am now going to order the book, The Myth of Normal.

Imagine a world in which medical doctors and mental health professionals learn these truths; in which everyone is taught this sane approach to existence.

My inner child experienced a ton of boundary violation, trauma and dysfunction at home and she is angry. My anger was suppressed for soooo long! Believe me, anger has a place in your healing. Embrace it!

I love his epitaph: “It was a lot more work than I anticipated.” As one who has spent a lifetime healing my own trauma, and then becoming a professional trauma therapist, I know this to be true! And his humor about it is much appreciated.

He said he is 5 foot 7 , however, he is a Giant. A giant in humility, in knowledge, in wisdom, in compassion and vulnerability. I think I am addicted to him and his wisdom but I am just fine about that.

I could listen Dr. Maté talk for hours, what a treasure of our time! 🙏Thank you for having him on the show 🙌

He is describing me. People pleaser from a young age, diagnosed with ADHD, evasive and borderline personality disorders, anxiety, depression, chronic fatigue and Hashimotos. All of it runs in my family and it's now my mission not to pass it on to my kids. I'm in therapy now and have just learned, at the age of 47, that it is ok for me to exist, it is ok to have my own opinions and it's ok to say NO knowing it might upset other people. I'm terrified of making other people disappointed, angry or sad. I get anxious if I don't please everybody all the time, can't eat or sleep. My body then starts to shut down and I get even more inefficient. Luckily I have stopped working, it is a blessing 🙏 I can now isolate my self and use all my energy on my children. Focusing on them and my therapy is the best thing ever!! They have the best dad I the world and they all seem to work well. I am so thankful!! But the thought that they still might end of like me is terrifying. My heart goes out to those who don't have the same privileges. Please take care of yourself ❤️

Finally, someone who makes sense of so many things! Modern medicine ignores the body-mind connection; our culture is brutal in its disregard for mother-child attachment, etc. YES! Such a monumental relief to hear these things articulated when we may subliminally feel them, but cannot put words to them. Thank you so much for this podcast!

Big fan of Gabor. I am a single dad with a 3 year old daughter. I have always sat and cuddled her through her feels and she is the best behaved 3 year old and is really kind and respectful to other people. Interestingly she has been winning awards for following all the rules at nursery but I don’t set many rules we talk and negotiate at home. I was/can identify with those men you talk about as I was treated very badly in two previous relationships so identified women as the problem. However, it was never women it was two abusive and one highly abusive individuals that did horrible things. Moving past this now as I look at all the lovely women in my life who have helped me through my trauma to help with my perspective. I think it’s the right time for me to be engaging with your content so I can be more how I used to be before those issues happened.

Right on Gabor..Until both men and women realize their strength and personal power is being fully present in this moment , allowing themselves to feel and express their genuine feelings openly, without fear of censorship, condemnation and repression,there will be no personal empowerment, harmony or authentic connection , both interpersonally and subsequently as a community and culture at large.We are emotional beings and our emotional vulnerability is our STRENGTH. Listen to your feelings.They will take us all home.

You have touched a lot of stuff I am going through at age 65. I survived a heart attack in 2016 and my wife cancer in 2018. I have changed so much. I am constantly afraid about living I need more community to help me and not to be alone. I happy to hear your stories.

Was recently introduced by my therapist to Gabor Mate' book the Myth of Normal, as soon as I watch my first interview on line with him, My mind/body immediately recognized the deep ancient wisdom Gabor articulates for us, on one hand shatters all I thought I knew to be true(painful) and on the other hand a healing balm. Thank Gabor for bringing us this wisdom ,the more I listen and read the more I cry my heart out from the deepest center of my core being, a grief and a lovingness so profound

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

Thank you for having Dr Mate on your podcast. He’s amazing and so full of wisdom and compassion. Please invite Dr Mate back soon. ❤

I started working in a Hospital and can relate to what you said about health anxiety. I get home after work and basically go to bed straight away. I am slowly learning to protect my energy and be self aware around my own trauma and what belongs to others