Break Free From Nice Guy Syndrome

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It’s hard to notice when you’re being a “nice guy”. The part that makes me angry is that I have to take responsibility for not knowing any better. I was raised in abusive household by women so I feel like so much time has been wasted now that I’m learning this stuff.

As a former nice guy and simp, I loved this video. The only way to get real respect from a woman is to stand up to her and civilly speak your mind. If she truly likes/loves you and wants to be with you, a sense of fear will get instilled in her of you potentially being unhappy with her and possibly leaving her because of it, and that will in turn make her respect you and your feelings more. Men fear being single and having no access to sex. That is why most of us put women on a pedestal, because it's so damn hard to get a woman in this day and age to begin with. But you have to kill the inner simp. There is no other way.

Don't Fear Rejection Embrace it because it means you're are willing to do the Unknown!

The exposure therapy section is very helpful. "Sharpen yourself against the relationship by engaging consciously and asking for what you need."

As I look back in my younger years, being nice is disgusting!! Be kind!!

I've struggled with this for all my life. Became everyone's punching bag ruined my confidence. Went from passive aggressive victim to overly nice and timid. Felt very confused. Now I communicate honestly. I know I have a lot of work to do. But It will be worth it. Letting everyone walk all over me in hope of making friends. Now I have a few friends now and I don't expect people to be nice to me after I've been nice to them. I know my worth and value now.

I’m enjoying your talks. I’ve been both bad boy and nice guy. I lost my edge as a man of stature after combat. Completely devastated and severely depressed. Adjusting to civilian life still seems foreign to me. Finding a sense of self-worth and being able to engage during disagreements became extremely aggravated and disruptive for me. I changed by becoming accommodating to people. IT DOESNT WORK. Try not to go back to the literal beast I was has kept me imprisoned. Finding my way back still feels like a place I’m not sure I can reach. Thank you much for the encouraging words.

I have definitely suffered from the nice guy syndrome. Being non-confrontational and avoiding conflict has been my worst habits. So not getting my needs met has become a real issue for me now, but I am working at it.

As a guy who still struggles with this, I think the art of disagreement and the willingness to express your needs cannot go understated. it can be confusing at times when the terror of rejection is almost embedded in your knee jerk responds to pushback regardless of the reason. Partly because pushing back feels so black and white. Filtering, being mindful, and calm in these moments can be extremely difficult so thank you Connor. Every video you have put out feels like each puzzle piece I needed to start getting my shit together.

I just followed your advice, and im sleeping on the sofa now. Thanks bruh😊

Getting calm with confrontation, know what the contention is and do not try to hide from it. I think I'm finally learning how to express it without going into a manic bipolar moment that really bothers people but my firmness of voice is also off-putting for them. If they deserve it I have some fun with it, now. I'm not in a relationship, anymore, and very little interaction outside business, which I'm inclined to be wary of, or hostile toward, anyway. I liked the calm, even, but firm voice that I had this morning at such a meeting. I felt like I was expressing myself like an honest adult.

I'm more than thankful for your channel.. after 25 years about being completely clueless as to what a real man is, and how I really want to be like... this is a BLESSING! Thank you, thank you, thank you! Watching your videos, taking notes, really thinking about how I did things wrong in my past relationship. So much to learn, it's crazy.

Read the book called not nice. I'm a recovering nice guy and that was very helpful.

Dr. Robert Glover's book is a great starting point for any nice guy who wants to start taking back his masculinity. So is "The Way of a Superior Man". Drop the nice, and take back control of your life men.

Great content man. I think for me the ability to be disliked by anyone was really hard. I had a friend and he used to say "i couldn't give monkey's if they don't like me". He was about the most straight talking honest person I've met, no pretence. Most people did like him and importantly respect him and i always saw his way as very liberating. The truth isnt always what people want to hear but is often the best thing they can hear ❤

One of the things i have been doing since i picked up “no more mr. Nice guy” is Dr glover says to ask for things that are difficult to ask for, its quite uncomfortable, but also quite worth it.

Top quality advice, thanks for this!

This video has put a shining light on my head. Thank you.

Thank you very much. I am a recovering nice guy from Denmark. Your work helps a lot to - in my own pace - break free from those patterns😊