Loving Someone with Depression Who Pushes You Away
Publicado 2021-03-06
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I’m Rachael Sloan, Master NLP Practitioner, certified life coach, and the creator of Better Beyond Divorce. I've helped hundreds of men move past the shock, betrayal, grief and anger they experience both during and after a divorce, to a place of clarity, calm and confidence. I hope to help you do the same.
DISCLAIMER: I am a Master NLP Practitioner and personal growth mentor. The material in this video represents my understanding and experience and nothing more. This content is not meant to replace professional medical advice, treatment or diagnosis. Always consult your medical provider before making any changes to your treatment.
I know that can be hard to believe.
You may be thinking, “when my depressed partner won’t talk to me, how does that have nothing to do with me? What about when my depressed partner shuts me out? Or when my depressed partner lashes out and BLAMES me for making it worse?”
But it’s true. None of it is about you. They may have thoughts that make them feel sad, angry or hopeless. They may have thoughts that create intense apathy and an inability to connect. In the video I help you explore the many reasons your depressed partner pushes you away so you can separate that action from yourself.
Another thing I’ve learned is that loving someone with depression who pushes you away is possible. You can always enjoy loving them. Even when your partner is depressed and needs space, you can feel powerful, beautiful love for them, because that emotion is created by your thoughts.
However, you’ll struggle to love a depressed partner who wants to be alone or who pushes you away if you don’t do the work to love yourself first.
The single most important thing you can do to support a depressed partner, the single most powerful way of loving someone with depression, is to learn to love yourself first. You cannot give them the incredible gift of your unconditionally loving, non judgmental presence if you aren’t able to give that gift to yourself.
You cannot truly love anyone, with depression or not, if you haven’t learned to love yourself.
Todos los comentarios (21)
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I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with cptsd. Spent my whole life fighting cptsd. I also suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
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"you can love them no matter what... You still get to enjoy loving them, because love is not for them, it's a feeling you feel in your body.... But you're gonna have a hard time doing that if you haven't loved yourself first."
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My boyfriend is struggling with suicidal depression and just recently decided to break up with me. I’ve been so hurt and confused and I was always trying to be there for him and help him through. I didn’t understand why leaving me was what’s best for him, but your words have helped immensely to understand that. Thank you so much ♥️
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As someone on the other side of this, it’s enlightening to hear reasons why I am acting this way. I’m not usually emotionally intelligent enough to come about these conclusions on my own. Thank you.
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They dont want you to feel the way they do. They dont want to be responsible for anothers downfall.
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My ex was numb and left me because he couldn't feel anything, even love. It's hard but I can't stay with someone who so easily pushes me away. Even if he's depressed all I can hope is that he gets help.
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There's "pulling away," and then there's abuse. I suffered emotional abuse from my depressed partner and it got worse and worse. I finally allowed myself to do what was best for my survival and leave.
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Thank you. Im experiencing this right now with my boyfriend pushing me away saying our relationship is pointless and it won't work.
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I push people away because I’m suffering and I don’t want anyone to be around me because it doesn’t help.
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The most frustrating thing about depression is nobody you were once close to doesn't listen and understand. They don't take the time to watch these help videos. It makes you feel alone. When there is no compassion from others to even try to understand just makes a person dive deeper and deeper into depression. Also, others seek and talk about your depression to others that you once felt comfortable talking to and you feel like everyone knows I'm messed up. But, in my journey I have found that I'm on another type of level of awareness and I'm not talking about a higher IQ. There's something else going on that's unexplainable.
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No person can take away major depression. You just have to sit in it until it goes away.
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It's so hard because you want to help them and they push you away. All you want to do is love them but they put up barriers even when trying to understand.
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I needed this 🥺 I love her more than anything, she's my world. I will always love her no matter what, through thick and thins. Even things get hard, I'll be there for her no matter what. Thank you so much 🤍
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Thank you, I really needed this. Sending my gratitude 💜
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You helped me to understand so much! Thank you!
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Thank you so much❤️ I needed this advice.
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This advice is soooo real, I also experience everything you said. I appreciate the advice I needed that. Thanks........
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Thank you Rachael for this I really understood what was happening and you have just made me realise what was going on and made me wanting to stay by her side no matter what
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Most excellent advice. Thank goodness.
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You changed my thought on how loving some one is for yourself. I wish I knew this so much sooner thank you.
