This baby making thing is hard

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My sister and I are five years apart in age, and we love it! I know you are disappointed it’s not happening sooner, but don’t worry about an age difference between Rupert and “little sister” (or brother) ❤

"The good place" Is a fun show with no "Plot babies" or sudden loss of child. My husband and I tried for many years before we were diagnosed with infertility. TV or movie characters suddenly being/getting pregnant for plot reasons would always break me. The dress is lovely! I think it is princess-core Alice!

I’m about to be a first time mom (My wife is at 18 weeks!), and I’m a chronically ill, wheelchair using, disabled mess… Hearing about how Rupert loves to come spend time with you when you have bad days in bed is incredibly comforting. I worry often about our kiddo liking me, and me being able to contribute in our household, so knowing you struggle with it too is incredibly helpful. <3

Going into fertility treatment as a same-sex couple my wife and I just assumed it would be easy. Three IUIs, three failed IVF transfers (including a miscarriage) and we're feeling hurt and despondent just like you. I want this for you both so badly, and right there in the trenches with you.

I understand the pain of this. 5 years officially trying in all ways, 15 years of not even avoiding getting pregnant. And now, aged 33, I’m facing a hysterectomy with no child beforehand. Infertility sucks so much and is probably the greatest pain I’ve experienced.

My family has most children five years apart. Then I took a lot of child development classes and found that’s a good spacing because the elder child is more independent and can help more with baby while not feeling left out. Oh baby can’t do that but you’re big. When baby is bigger you can teach them how to do that!

I was a teenager in the 90s when bread makers were just becoming a thing, and my mom figured out that it would be cheaper per loaf to make bread than to buy it. So we got a bread machine! The problem was, while the cost per loaf is lower, the taste of the bread is better, and also, warm fresh bread just out of the oven with a little butter is amazing. So we ate a lot more bread than we usually did, and the total cost was not, in fact, lower.

I’ve got 3 younger siblings of various ages. The one 2 years younger than me is practically a stranger, the one 4 years below me is my best friend, and the one 6 years below me is a friendly acquaintance. It can depend a lot on the individual dynamics, not just age.

Knowing that Rupert sometimes feels a little shy, makes me even happier i have never seen his face. Respect to you

My sister and I are close in age and we literally text each other 3 times a year, and never see each other, so don’t worry about the age gap

Oh I'm so sorry loves. I know you both struggled getting your first little one. Hopefully this is the worst of it and you'll soon be blessed with another baby! 💓

My sister and I are ten whole years apart - I’m 32 now and we honestly don’t even notice the difference! We’re just best pals. And when I was a teen and she was a kiddo, I just loved having her round like my little shadow. I hope with all my heart things work out for you soon 🩷

My brother and I are 8 years apart in age difference and I really love it! He has always been a role model for me when I was a child, and I was looking at him like a wise guru 😄 Now, as adults we feel like we are the same age 🩷🩵

I went from being temporarily able-bodied to pretty significantly disabled this year. Having already been a follower of yours I knew I could find both useful information and a sense of peace from watching your videos. Thank you so much for everything you do.

We struggled to succeed at a second pregnancy, too, after the first seemed so easy. But this past summer, we welcomed our second tiny person into our family. Wishing you all the best as you work through this ❤

My son also used to comment about matching clothes. My baby brother once took half an hour to get dressed as he kept looking at horror at choices and suggestions and saying “doesn’t go!”

I have worked as a family counsellor here in Denmark🇩🇰for almost 30 years. If I had to give only one advice for all parents, it would be to love and support your child. Don't try to change them. Studies have shown that children can cope with most challenges, as long as the have "a psychological friend" to hold their hand. So I think Rupert is absolutely safe with the two of you❤💙

Im so glad that you are not labelling Rupert as "shy" and trying to understand his thought process is a-okay while still helping him through it. I have been labelled as "shy" since childhood and its made me even more self conscious around others, or sometimes i would lean into the "shy"ness even more. So glad to hear an explanation and understanding instead of just a "shy" blanker judgement, nothing wrong with taking a little time to scope out a social situation 😊

1. The blue dress is lovely! Also, random I really like the pheasant pillow behind you on the sofa. 2. Our breadmaker was relegated to the cellar because it became yet another thing to dust. I should deal with that. 3. Fertility - My 1st baby after 5 IUIs at age 38 was stillborn. I was devastated but know I didn’t have much time left, so as soon as I could I tried again. I was probably not ready psychologically but physically I was running out of time. 4 more IUIs, consulted on IVF, but ended up trying one more time with IUI with scheduled ovulation injections. At 40, simply tossing it up and hoping for the best seemed highly improbable for success. This time was a success and lovely kiddo was literally my last good egg. I never had a period again. 4. Favourite this month - Gorgeous new sheets. Mind I didn’t need new sheets , but I love new sheets so I guess yay for new sheets! I wish you both the absolute best on this fertility journey and hope you have happy news soon. :_JessicaHandsHeart::_JessicaHandsHeart: P.S. Apologies for the TLDR length