Why I'm done trying to be "man enough" | Justin Baldoni

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Published 2018-01-03
Justin Baldoni wants to start a dialogue with men about redefining masculinity -- to figure out ways to be not just good men but good humans. In a warm, personal talk, he shares his effort to reconcile who he is with who the world tells him a man should be. And he has a challenge for men: "See if you can use the same qualities that you feel make you a man to go deeper," he says. "Your strength, your bravery, your toughness: Are you brave enough to be vulnerable? Are you strong enough to be sensitive? Are you confident enough to listen to the women in your life?"

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All Comments (21)
  • @m.m.1602
    he should have been casted as Aladdin
  • @brittanimel3270
    "Instead of teaching our children on; how to be brave boys and pretty girls; can we just teach them how to be good humans" -Justin B. (Challenge accepted)
  • @umglitch
    "I don't just wanna be a good man. I wanna be a good human."
  • @szymon1894
    I am male. I cried while watching this and I AM NOT ASHAMED OF THAT.
  • @hopedean6424
    Guys who are open about their struggles and don't act like a brick wall when it comes to their feelings are the bomb.
  • @SpaceLike9
    " Real Manliness is not hurting others, Real manliness is helping those who are weak "
  • @sofib.5607
    I'm a woman, and I'm so happy of listening to thoughts like that. Really, just think that men like this actually exists makes me fell hope.
  • @Simmi_
    What's so problematic is that sometimes when men do find the courage to open up and show some vulnerability, they're told by some women to 'act like a man and toughen up'. It's really the same as telling a woman to 'act like a girl and sit silent and look pretty'.
  • @hridayverma7253
    I'm 17 and I am shocked that this is 3 years old but only has 2.8 million views. This Talk needs to go viral, to come forward.
  • @Roman-fb9mq
    "As if being gay makes you less of a man." Eye opener
  • @lune78
    Gorgeous, smart AND sensitive! My kind of man. "I don't just want to be a good man, I want to be a good human." Beautifully said.
  • @daro2662
    My dad commit suicide when I was 8. I just learned he was sexually abused and took a really tough role in his childhood. I get it now. I feel sorry he couldn't talk to anybody so he started to drink. I love this talk! Beautiful.
  • @vedantvairagi9561
    That is exactly how I felt all the way growing up. Growing up in a south asian household every guy around me was just supposed to be masculine and Justin literally spoke my heart out. LY
  • @jackdodds4681
    I’m a 17 year old guy, for reference, and this is potentially one of the best tedtalks I’ve ever heard, and I resignations more with it than any other tedtalk I’ve heard. Well dome mate
  • @divya83
    I have so much respect for actors and actresses who use their influence to shed light on important issues and champion the message of inclusion.
  • @emmasuniverse7710
    That is a Real man. Who is a compassionate, honest and courageous person
  • @had2havastupidchannl
    made me cry. warms my heart to see that there are men like him out there that are actually trying. Gave me a little hope for the rest of them and the future of our society.