6 Unknown Childhood Trauma Triggers

Being expected to act like an adult while being viewed and treated like a child just there to listen and obey was hella confusing

I remember I used to get punished for “talking back” when I would try to explain myself or answer a question and now I have a really hard time engaging conversation with anyone, I’m 20 and still can’t hold a conversation, I get so nervous worrying about if I’ll say something stupid or something that’s rude and offensive so I just don’t talk most of the time.

“We were greatly misunderstood growing up…our parents didn’t see us as children. Toxic parents usually see their kids as selfish adults who are making choices at their expense.” I had to pause at this part. Just take it in. Rewind and listen to it again and again. It hurts so much to acknowledge it but I’m so glad to have words for it now!

Being laughed at while I'm crying absolutely sends me over the edge. It hasn't happened in a long time but I remember it so vividly and I'm so scared to cry in front of my family now.

My favorite method of coaching my inner child is saying "hey kiddo, that was a survival tactic- we are not in survival mode anymore." Its almost instantly calming.

@12:03 “Toxic parents usually see their kids as selfish adults who are making choices at their expense.” 🤯

When I was 17, I was told by a psychologist that my childhood was "worse than most.". I'm 60 and still dealing with it.

Every single day I ask myself, why am I like this? Why can’t I just be normal and not let little things bother me? This is the first time someone has ever explained to me why I react so sensitively to things especially other people. Someone can have a slight tone change and it feels like the end of the world sometimes. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing this. You have no idea how thankful I am for this. I’ve finally identified the problem and can move to the next step of healing and deep diving into my childhood.

watching my parents be loving christians around the church and then rage and abuse us at home really messed with my ability to believe anyone’s kindness for a while.

I always find it weird when a kid is way too mature for their age. People usually see it as a gift, but I know from personal experience there's usually something else behind it. Kids should act like kids, and if they're acting all cold and taking decisions it probably because there's a situation at home that's forcing them to grow up fast. And that's never good for nobody. Edit: Reading everyone's stories has been so validating. To everyone who is sharing or will share, thank you so much ❣️

#5 - Sometimes we don't actually know that it will compromise ourselves because we were not allowed to be "too fatigued" or "too sick" or "too sad" to say no as a kid--we can't recognize overextension! The most important kind of boundaries I've learned about so far are energy boundaries.

I think it also needs to be said that it’s not necessarily a parent that caused you to feel this way. Siblings, or other family members can cause these traumas, too.

Kids don't choose to have their parents, parents choose to have kids. If there were one message I wished everyone considered before becoming parents, it's that one.

It's funny how I grew up with people saying to my mom " she is so mature and responsible for her age" and nobody never questioned it

After watching this, I realized how broken I really was and just skirting through life unaware of how much trauma I’m actually carrying/dismissing as normal.

I love how you talk from personal experience, you're not reeling off a load of 'facts' you've learned about - you talking from a place of empathy xx

i personally feel so… weird when people talk to me about their childhood and it’s not ragged, fuzzy and torn it’s just happy and colorful, and they actually remember things properly

People use to praise me for being so quiet and secluded, "mature" and not asking for anything as a child. Now that I have children I never get mad at them for being CHILDREN, they're everything I'm not. That I wish I had. EDIT: SINCE PEOPLE CAN'T COMPREHEND WHAT IM SAYING, "mature" as in worrying if we were going to have money to pay the bills or buy food. Not wanting to ask for help in anything because I felt like a burden. Didn't ask to go on field trips or new clothes so I wouldn't have to need money. Playing with toys didn't bring me joy. Not playing with other kids cause it felt pointless. Singing or being silly turned into snapping at me or yelling or shaming me for wanting to be a kid. Being on survival mode is NOT living and it's very hard to not teach my kids how to only survive but to also live. I didn't realize till after my first child that what I thought was normal is NOT.

"Our parents didn't see us as children. Toxic parents usually see their kids as selfish adults..." I've been thinking this for decades and its good to hear someone else say it. Its a thing.

I don't know who this guy is, or why he showed up on my feed today, but I am extremely glad he did. These are all things that have an enormous impact on my life and I had no idea any of them were from my childhood trauma. I'm 42 years old and just now beginning to understand that my specific kind of crazy originates from my terrifying childhood. More so, I'm only now understanding that it might be able to be fixed.