Surviving Domestic Violence: Koby's Story

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Published 2016-03-15

Trigger Warning: This video contains detailed descriptions of physical violence as well as references to sexual abuse which some viewers may find distressing.

This is a candid, frank and brave interview about the rarely discussed subject of domestic violence against men including domestic violence by men aimed at other men in same-sex relationships. Koby Bunney is the convenor of Equal Love Ballarat but for three and a half years he was in a same-sex relationship in which he was abused physically and mentally by his partner.

Here he talks publicly for the for the first time about the abuse he suffered and the lack of support and resources for male victims and survivors of domestic violence that he encountered where he lives in Ballarat in the Australian state of Victoria. Koby hopes that the experiences that he shares in this video will help create a discussion about instances of domestic violence where men have been the victims and how support and resources can be improved for them.

All Comments (19)

@AlanaGreen-rj9iv 5 days ago

Rest In Peace Koby⚘️ Passed away 2 days ago. We will never forget you 🕯
@katespellxx9529 4 days ago

RIP Koby. Thank you for all you did to help raise issues and inspire others.
@lucasdunstall 7 years ago

Thank you Kobe for sharing, as sad as your story is, it needs to be heard.
@91rozie 8 years ago

I'm very proud of sharing your story. Good on you mate 😊
@whekau2375 4 years ago

It's unbelievable what people can do to each other. All that violence Koby had to witness and experience in his family since childhood, and then in his own relationship... My heart is breaking for him. He seems like a sweet guy, and abusers usually take advantage of people like him. He deserves to finally be with someone who will make those emotional traumas heal. Thank you for sharing.
@deadlymedianewspublishing142 7 years ago

Thank you very much Kobe for sharing your story, you are one Deadly Brother boy, domestic violence is unacceptable in all of its form,
@therealshelleybeech5320 5 years ago

Hi Koby Thank you so much for speaking out. Your video has helped me understand so much about an emotional abusive situation i was in. You are totally gorgeous and will definitely find a great man. There should be more support for men in similar situations.
@sirrubysunrises6803 5 years ago

thank you koby , you are so adorable and brave :) my partner went thru an abusive relationship, many years before he met me. i love him so much, and would never do anything to hurt him. He trusts me and loves me ,....... and im moving in with him next month. Me and his ex have the same first name lol....but are two completely opposite people. real love is a pure and beautiful thing, along with friendship, best of luck to you dude ;)
@vmcmoore 7 years ago

what a beautiful soul. God Bless you Koby. keep shining your light.
@susannec659 5 years ago

God bless you Kobe. Thank you for your. I hope you're doing well. Much love and a big hug coming your way!
@suziecheeseman3760 3 years ago

Very brave and selfless to share such difficult memories. Thank you.
@carolealdridge6321 3 years ago

Enlightening - thank you for sharing Kobe - you deserve so much better.
@ruthsmith1694 2 years ago

It takes courage to come forward and tell the truth. Why do GPs and health services always offer drugs as a solution to everything? It should be the last resort on offer not the first. Well done to this man and to all the brave survivors who come forward and tell their stories. The truth can change things but lies and cover ups never solve anything.
@christopherwinstanley1348 5 years ago

The story is very constructive and comes across very well. Being single for sometime after a relationship helps because the abuse sometimes becomes accrues in future ones. It's like a grievance and it can knock someone off balance. There seems be a lot absent in relationships of the past when going to the police would be in heard. Lot of people have a difficulty with eternity... a person's eternal right. And a lot of ideals that have been handed down and sometimes that is the root cause. People don't get involved because statistics show they go back to the relationship. So your dealing with mind. The characteristic of anyone with those tenancy for sadistic violence are not going to change.. so that's part of the answer. I know some relationship have trust issues and they can build on.. entirely it's better being away from that violence.
@millar6070 6 years ago

"I'm a SURVIVOR", Surviving Domestic Violence, twice placed within the hospital system being dead 4 times. yes 11 years of fear and death, the LGBT community, doesn't care about about anyone except their own reputation. Being single for 18 years now has made me very happy.
@AmitSharma-nf5ed 5 years ago

Very Painful!
@sirrubysunrises6803 5 years ago

youre a smart goodlooking, good guy...and you'll do well
@jenmariabrooklyn 8 years ago

Domestic violence is any way, or form is an inexcusable and terrible crime, the emotional scars are deeper than what the eye can see. If you have a minute have a look at my blog where I document my survival of DM which culminated in my abuser shooting me 5 times with a 9mm gun..but I'm still here https://therealjmbb.wordpress.com/2016/03/20/the-olive-tree/