I've Had It With These Misleading 'Gentle Parenting' TikToks

Friends who work as teachers tell me the kids are less and less disciplined and more and more difficult to handle due to disruptive behavior. Tell me there's no connection.

Gentle parenting is like soft on crime. The result will be more problems for society.

Tim The Toolman Taylor said it best on Home Improvement: "The reason we became parents is so we could tell our kids what to do. If we can't do that, we're just the tallest people living here."

Any parenting that doesn't include some actual discipline, and setting up boundaries that your child thinks twice before crossing, is just non-parenting, it's the absence of parenting.

My definition of "gentle parenting" is remaining calm during a temper tantrum and never disciplining out of anger or a sense of revenge for being personally disrespected. All this other crap is "permissive parenting" and it's raising generations of weak, entitled brats.

That one dude talking about not letting his daughter miss a football game when she’s grounded is telling her the punishment isn’t real

The last lady also worded her consequences in a passive way. Instead of letting the child know they should have made a better choice or disobeyed, she blamed everything else for being "tricky." What?? Trucks aren't tricky- the child disobeyed. Baths aren't tricky- the child disobeyed. If they grow up and get a DUI, they'll blame the car for being tricky and the alcohol for tricking them, too. Teach personal responsibility!

I’m a teacher. I can say the result of this parenting style has been an absolute nightmare.

You hit the nail on the head. Most parents want to be friends not parents

It’s what’s wrong today, we have a generation of kids who are never told no, they’re encouraged to believe they can be what and who they want, which is setting them up for a big fall in the real world.

Should they ask the child, do you think you shouldn’t touch that hot stove so you won’t burn yourself?

I used to be around a lot of single mothers. Two things I regularly noticed: They only ever threaten to punish but don't go through with it and (tied to the first issue) they want to be the kids' friend, they don't want their kids to dislike them at all. So they'd tell the kid "Do what I say or you won't be....." but never actually make good on the threat. When I remind them they have to actually follow through, they'd tell me they tried it and it didn't work so then they'd throw their hands up in frustration and whine about how it didn't work, etc...usually turns out they only tried it once and also that once again, they never carried out any punishment, just threatened to. The fact that the kids are well used to them NOT following through on the threat was the problem - the kids aren't stupid, they will test your resolve and if you fold like a cheap suit on the first try, they know they own you. They wouldn't try again because they don't want the kids to be mad at them, which makes them think they've failed as a parent...

Parents;: "your in trouble " Kids: "we investigated ourselves and found no wrong doing "

Parents should stay off tik tok. That shit will rot your brain and destroy your memory.

17:41 I love how the kids are yelling and screaming in the background, and she hasn’t the nerve to say “STFU, I’m recording here!” A real gem.

It’s a DISSERVICE to a child to not show them discipline and boundaries. They may not WANT it, but they ABSOLUTELY NEED it.

None of those consequences were natural. Some examples of natural consequences are, you forgot to pack a luch, now you don't eat... You didn't clean your room, and now there's a Lego stuck in your foot... You decided to ride your bike on the street without a helmet, and now you gave brain damage. As parents its our job to teach them what is important in order to avoid disastrous natural consequences.

What is wrong with shaming? Private shaming from parents prevents public shaming. As society deteriorates, much of it is because people no longer fear public shaming.

My mom used to say "this is not a democracy, it is a dictatorship and I am your dictator". 🤣 It's my favorite phrase and while she was stricter than I think was necessary I am grateful I grew up raised by a parent and not treated as a friend. To hear someone say "I see you're having big feelings right now..." Makes my skin crawl. Also, I hate when I hear "well I was telling my 10 year old about *insert adult problem*, because they are my best friend". No they are not. They are kids and should remain as such.

My parents instilled ‘Discipline’, ‘Responsibility’, ‘Self-Respect’, ‘Respect For Others’ and ‘Respect For Authority and the Law’, ‘Obedience’ and ‘Self Control’.