Having it all - for working mothers everywhere | Julie Ellison | TEDxDerryLondonderryWomen

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Published 2020-12-16
Julie is a Barrister at Law and passionate about representing clients and providing high quality legal advice and representation. A former graduate of Queens University Julie is a leading female Barrister in Northern Ireland with some passionate views about the challenges doing so. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
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  • @annat6249
    As a working mother of a 5 year old, I found my life is so exhausting. I am mentally tired. Last year, he started school, he got sick, take a a week or two to recover, and sick again in 4-5 days. This cycle repeat for the whole year. He also share the disease with me. I was sick and also caring for a sick kid and also working. I got RSV during RSV wave last year, imagine I have trouble breathing at night while I care for a sick child too. I have 15 minutes sleep every night. I am a career and thought I am strong, but during this time, I got depressed and almost suicidal. This year, he get sick less but he get crazy tantrum. Few days ago, I go to bed early at 9pm, I stare at the ceiling for 3 hours, I am emotionally exhausted. I realized, when I don’t work, I can handle motherhood. I realized, we cannot have it all. Our modern society expect too much from mother. We are a mother, worker, cook, home worker, nutritionists for our kid, financier, 24/7 nurse to our kid, etc… No wonder new generation do not wish to have kids. Society as a whole need to appreciate mothers.
  • @DorisHeyyy-vc4rh
    This speaks to me. I’m a nine year lawyer with two kids. I own a law firm with nine employees. I find the baby years fine, but my four year old exhausts me. I feel like I’m failing in multiple areas and it’s hard. Just too much stress and never all in anywhere. It’s just really hard.
  • @yushikuang7877
    I am career woman, a wife and a mother. My son didn’t talks yet when he get to the daycare at 18 months. His first language or what we should call « mother tongue » is english and we speak french at home. It hit me at first and my husband rationalize it: «  it’s good he learn another language as we will definitely speak french anyway. » yes, I had few moments of guilt but kids grow up fast and i am glad that i had not gives up my professional career coz now, I willl wonder what else I can do now that he is at school.
  • @alliesmith695
    This has further conflicted me. I really don’t know that I want my career more than I want to be a full time mother. 😩
  • @eegretki24
    You are incredible. I’m a new mom and a new nurse practitioner and am struggling with this internal conflict right now. Thanks for your advice !!!
  • @Miki-ri1gs
    This made me decide to quit my job and start working from home. Let's see if I can go through with it.
  • @deepasinghal4729
    Its quite sad for working class mothers. If you want work and be a complete mother, make sure to get out of the 9-9 labour class, thats your best bet and with today's internet a huge possibility that others didnt have. goodluck!
  • @Mightyhaggis101
    Fantastic talk! Resonates so strongly and what a key message. “To Have it all, you don’t have to do it all” . Spinning those plastic plates. Brilliant
  • @rarcher382
    I am a small business owner at the stage of life where I need to decide wether I’m going be become a mother or not. I’m used to putting everything into what I do and doing it well. This talk was very poignant for me.
  • @MJ31579
    It's both what moms expect and what society expects
  • @ThatKrisandTom-tc4mk
    Two teachers. Parents working full time. We found high ticket, affiliate, marketing, too late in the career world. You should start now!!!!! 💲💲 in your pjs!