The Priceless Benefits of Not Belonging

"When I was 20, I cared about what everybody thought about me. When I was 40, I didn't care what everybody thought about me. When I was 60, I realised that nobody cared anyway".

When I'm asked why I seem anti-social, I answer I'm not anti-social, I'm selectively social.

The funny thing is, when you are already happy being alone, everyone wanted to be with you.

It's hard to find out who you really are when everybody is busy telling who you are.

"Solitude is dangerous. It's very addictive. It becomes a habit after you realize how peaceful and calm it is. It's like you don't want to deal with people anymore because they drain your energy." Jim Carrey

Never have fit in and when I got close to fitting in, I realized that these friends were not the ones I wanted to belong with.

I wish loners could learn this concept earlier in life. Time alone is precious, the earlier you realize that the more you will have.

This is why I love YouTube. It’s totally different to the BS cattle farm that is FB or Insta. With YouTube you can dip into the comment sections like this and realise you’re not alone. You’re a powerful, free-thinking, individual who’s educating yourself with good content without getting wrapped up in ‘news’ feeds or comments. There’s no commitment here. Much love to you fellow loners out there pushing for new ways of thinking and novel ideas.

I felt more alive ever since i stopped caring about what others think of me..i shouldn't live my life trying to please others

This is summarised by my favourite quote: "The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Friedrich Nietzsche.

This video was recommended to me. It was a weird coincidence I watched it today, as I was just thinking about how I don’t have my own group of friends, how my family and relatives are not close to me and I am not invited to my colleagues’ gatherings (before the pandemic). I have been thinking people don’t like me and it makes me nervous in social situations. Of course it’s has a lot to do with me, as I don’t share my family’s ideology and I suck at small talk, I over share when people ask me how I am doing. I don’t drink. I am not a member of any religion etc. My “lifestyle” is weird to people, as is my passion for some things and that I speak so openly about my feelings and how I love being alive. But now that I have watched this, I actually feel much better. I have been an outsider for so long that I have difficulties to adapt to these groups as their behavior seems quite odd to me. Thank you for making this video ❤️

I've struggled my whole life to fit in because my family wanted me to, but I couldn't no matter how hard I tried. I chose to be alone, after a few toxic relationships and toxic friendships later, I became happier without them. My family is angry and disappointed with me of course, so they try to guilt trip me with comparing me to other family members who are more socially acceptable than I am. I don't care anymore because I felt way too drained trying to conform myself to their ways, so I stayed true to myself. I've learned to be independent and not associate myself into other groups. I like thinking for myself and I like doing things for myself, and that's enough for me. I don't like taking orders from others because they're not always right. This video pretty much sums up my whole life.

" I love people, hate groups."- George Carlin

It is a freeing feeling for not caring about you fitting in.

Does anyone else feel that those of us that love and accept others as they are without judgment are usually the ones that are ostracized because of the judgments of others? Keep on existing sigmas! Maybe one day we can have a meal together? (Portland, Oregon)

I stopped caring about wealth and it's interesting to see how others cling to that excessive, newer/ better stuff to feel ok.

I've never been able to convince most people that I ENJOY my own company and don't need a crowd around me. Oh well, I feel sorry for them.

I am an Introvert.I am at my best when alone.I dont care what the whole world thinks.This is who i am.

I've never really had a choice about fitting in. Always found myself alone, even in a crowd. Always been labeled "weird". It's just lately that I've accepted and taken advantage of it. :)

As someone who has always been unpopular - both in friend groups and even my own family - this is priceless. Your channel is helping me let go and let be. We don't need to be "popular" or feel "included" to live a fulfilling life. Ironically, I wish this was a more popular idea!