Am I Lazy, Depressed, or Burnt Out?

Sharing my burn out and depression stories at the links in the description. Sending you all ❤️.

Am I lazy, depressed, or burnt out? Me: Yes.

I'm never lazy. I just believe I'm either depressed or burnt out, but sadly, nobody, not even my own parents, can see that.

I'm burnt out to a crisp, yet I'm not willing to do anything rewarding because it fills me with overwhelming guilt. "How can I do this enjoyable thing when I need to be doing all these urgent/important things I've been putting off for months!?" is what it feels like, and despite me knowing that this makes zero sense because if I don't do anything enjoyable I'll just keep being burnt out and will put off the important stuff for even longer, I'm still not willing to do anything rewarding. It's so frustrating.

You are the best therapist I've ever had and you're not even my therapist. 😂

It’s hard to balance everything in life. There is so much. And if we don’t take care of ourselves, we will get burned out, and then we really won’t be able to do more. I wish the whole world would just slow down a little.

For me, it's just being overwhelmed. Ever since I was little, my parents told me that if I got good grades, that the universities would pay me to study for them (scholarships). And so I got the good grades. I graduated in the top 7% of my class with a 3.7 gpa. Well, I started applying for scholarships just like they always said I would be able to do, but I kept getting rejected for each and every single one. The only one I got was an academic scholarship for 4k a year that I didnt even apply for. So I went to college and I again, graduated at the top of my class 3.8 gpa.. but now I have a bunch of student bebt that my good grades during high school were supposed to eliminate completely. And yall know adults always said that if you go to college, you'll be able to find a good job.. that it's the only way that people find good jobs. Well now I'm applying to job after job after job and getting rejected from every single one. 16 years of hard work and absolutely no reward at all.

as a therapist specialized in burnout, I love this video and your reccomendations. I would just add one thing: if you are experiencing burnout, the first thing you experience is exhaustion, so you might not have the cognitive energy to start thinking about your situation, identifying the risk factors, looking for solutions, etc... before starting to look for a therapist or a psychiatrist or all the answers you need, please REST. This is the first reccommendation in burnout clinic. Intense therapy can burn you out even more when you're exhausted... please rest first, get some energy back, and then when you have some mental and physical energy back, then go get active help

Why did this make me cry? I was holding it together pretty well. But "do I suck at life?"... I don't know what happened and now I can't stop crying

"Am I Lazy, Depressed, or Burnt Out?" Yes

I think I've had burn out for years, but growing up was always called lazy from my own family... so I never took my needs seriously. I worked 70 hour weeks at times in the film industry, but there was always that voice telling me if I stopped and took care of my needs, I was lazy. Finally said to work I had to do a doctors appointment this week and took the time for me. Took me a long time to learn that taking basic care of my health needs isn't being selfish or attention seeking.. or lazy.

This is definitely an area I've been struggling with a lot lately. I could time my meals right through the day, go the bed super early, set myself up as much as possible and even be happy about it, and then I'm still constantly fighting myself to get out of bed. It can just be so aggravating trying to wake up and feel good and find purpose, and to be struggling to do that when I set that intention. I could even have a bad dream I don't want to fall back into, but I'll still end up snoozing because I'm just so tired. And I know I struggle with depression. I feel like I'm always fighting myself on whether I'm unable or unwilling. Even if I get the right amount of sleep, going to bed and waking up are the times my mind is talking shit the most. Thank you for this Kati. Your videos always help me gain perspective on these things.

Listening to you saying how you want to get up earlier and then you came to the conclusion that you’re just not a early morning person. This made me think about how I buy a lot of makeup and hair products because I want to do my makeup and hair everyday and look like I’m put together…. But I’m just not that person who’s going to do makeup and hair everyday let alone once a week. I’ve been trying to be someone I’m not for years now and I’m down on my self because I never accomplish it. I’ve been working against myself.

65 years old and never knew what was wrong with me in relationships, depression, overeating, etc, until I watched your video on childhood emotional neglect. Thank you.

The lazy part rang true to me, and it's a word that people always view in a negative light. I like how you brought up the "why". Why am I being lazy? Why am I unwilling to do things? I never thought about the reasons for it, but it seems like that is exactly what I need to do. Thank you for that suggestion!

I have Septo Optic Dysplasia, which caused me to be born totally blind and it caused a few other things. I’ve been told that I was lazy because I can’t find a job. A lot of places in my area don’t have the resources for blind people, and that’s why I don’t have a job. I’ve been told that I’m just using blindness as an excuse. In other words, I’m hearing, “get a life. Oh, you’re blind? Cry me a river. You can still get a job.” Which some of this may be true, what people really need to realize is that there aren’t a lot of resources at places for those who are blind. My dream is to be a musician, which I know I can get that. I’m working on that one.

I love this video, Kati! I personally don't believe there's any such thing as laziness- just low motivation. If by definition, laziness means you're unwilling to do something, that sounds like a motivation issue. Looking into what will motivate someone in a healthy way will remedy this issue entirely.

The definitions were really helpful! Growing up, laziness wasn't a feeling or a behavior, it was a character flaw. So I didn't recognize my burnout until I couldn't function because it didn't make sense: I was motivated and I liked the things I studied but undiagnosed ADD made me do loads of extra inefficient work. I only recognized the depressive stage because that's what I knew from biology class.

Thank you for this. Your "check in" suggestions feel very relatable and doable. And I really appreciate you high lighting for us that we do hold our own answers. It's a matter of practicing checking in, and then believing what we discover (not necessarily believing what our "trash talking" thoughts tell us). Very helpful :)

Thank you! You pose a lot of good questions that we as viewers could use. Sending much love ❤