Am I Exaggerating My Struggles?

A follow up to Question nr. 2: Personally i am told by my mentor that i AM over-exaggerating my feelings. Like i use big words to describe how much it really hurts, and its most likely because i wasn't listened to as a child when i felt bad. My mom is a nurse, but she would send me to school no matter how sick i was, even with a fever, to the point where my teachers would send me home because it was so obvious that i was sick. I had painful tummy aches every day in school (anxiety) but it was never looked at because nobody understood that it was more mental then physical, least of all me - I would sometimes make a scene out of puking in the morning just so i could stay home when i was sick - In school i would be send to the nurse and she would be the first person to listen to me, she knew - But as my life progressed i was taught that unless i am unable to walk, break a limb or am on the verge of dying, nobody will see me, or my pain, nobody will listen to me, so i gotta really tell how much it really hurts! I over-exaggerate today because i was never listened to when i told the truth. And it is no longer serving me.

1. 0:47 I’m in therapy for anxiety, self esteem and trauma. We talk about surface things like what happened that week and checking in with symptoms, and other times we... 2. 5:25 I wanted to ask you why I always feel like I'm over-exaggerating what I tell my therapist. I don't do this on purpose, but after my sessions, I always get really angry at myself because I... 3. 13:21 Is it normal to fantasize about your childhood sexual abuse to try to find comfort in it? I feel like I’m trying to change the narrative to make it feel less traumatic. 4. 26:45 Hi kati 😊 what's the difference between disordered eating and an eating disorder and when is it serious enough to ask for help? I've been having some problems with restricting and purging when I do eat more than once a day, but I don't feel like it's bad enough because... 5. 37:53 How can you set boundaries for people who cross boundaries all the time? Especially if it’s a parent you are struggling with. Luckily I don’t live at home anymore but quitting the relationship/contact completely isn’t an option. I don’t want that. Another question is, how can you not let negativity ruin your mood. 6. 43:19 I have asked this question a number of times and so I really hope this gets picked. I was wondering if anyone has ever told you they had an NDE (near-death experience). If they have, how did you react? What did you say

My heart goes out to the people who have suffered like this... I'm so sorry.

Toolbox with “a broken rubber and and an old tootsie pop” LOL Totally made me laugh!

Thank you Kating for sitting with us every week and thank you to those who share their journey and delicate parts of their life asking questions. This podcast helps so much and it's because of all of you <3 Also thanks for the brief review of the episode themes at the start of the video, I've been able to put in place some soothing activities to do while listening to the part that was most challenging for me. Really appreciate it.

Question number 3 was reassuring. I have no recollection of childhood SA but I have many symptoms that suggest it and I've been known to repress abuse on multiple occasions, only finding out about it through other people. I feel really ashamed and messed up for feeling this way but it's comforting to know I'm not alone and that it may be due to past experiences.

I've had many of these questions swarming around my head for a while, this is very helpful. Thank you! ❤

Thank you so much for answering my question. I very much appreciate it!

Kati, you may never see this, but when I need comfort and learning for my Specialty in Children's Mental Health. Thank you, for the knowledge. I always get 100% because of my own experience with mental health struggles and my schooling.

How serendipitous! I woke up to see this with enough time to watch it before speaking with my counselor! It was like the first video on my feed! Good timing!!!

Thank you so much for answering my add-on question, Kati! You’ve given me some hope, encouragement, and clarity, so now I feel less weird. I won’t specify the topic here, but I will definitely bring it up with my therapist, as you recommended, when I feel able to address it.

I love that you've never been afraid of discussing the hardest of problems that plague so many of our lives. I'm not sure what subtle difference I'm feeling from your videos recently. It's definitely a positive, quiet change or maybe it's my perspective that's changing? I continue to learn such important information from you Kati, thank you.😊

I came across this by chance. Didn’t realize you would be answering so many questions that were personal to me. Thanks you for addressing sexual abuse and trauma and validating people like me. ❤

I love what you said about letting people tell you how they feel rather than assuming that you know how they feel.

Thank you so much Katy for this wonderful video ❤ For anyone that has experienced an NDE and not sure who to talk to there are alot of support groups and people who understand, from what I have heard IANDS is a good place to start ❤

This is my first episode of this podcast I have watched for a while. No specific reason for not tuning in. I just have been online significantly less recently. I do not know when Kati switched up the format at the beginning of the pod but I absolutely love it. She has done an amazing job.

Oh my, that point with setting boundaries with the mom really gives me hope. For me it's my mom, but far worse with my husband, I tried telling him how hurtful his behaviour is for me, but he just ignores it, or belittles me or loughs it off, or tells me I should not take it personally or be so sensitive. Will try it the way you described it.

This is helpful. Thank you!

Happy 40th Birthday Kati. I wish everyone a happiest of birthday's and also, I believe that no matter what age we turn in 2023 that everyone should celebrate it in any way that they can and do it the best that they want to with friends and family. It should be celebrated in an awesome way.

Thank you, Kati!