How To Love Yourself When It Feels Hard To

I have watched this 5 times in a week. Have never been this way, thank you a hundred times over for this content, your delivery and all that you are doing. Working on breaking that conditionally acceptance and holding my little guys hand and saying, we can do this together. I am THERE for you.

As a therapist this is one of the best videos i have ever seen. Thanks a lot

That point about the puking baby really resonated with me. I’m 42 and doing lots of work on myself lately and I frequently criticize myself for not learning this stuff like 20 years ago. But I feel like I’m weaponizing my efforts at self improvement against myself

I honestly don't know how I would survive the ugly chapter I'm in without you. Thank you for all that you do to heal the world. You have a gift with explaining complex conceps like I've never seen before.

I can't believe how much more productive it is for me to listen to your videos than it is to sit on a psychiatrist's couch and talk to myself. Thanks for making the effort to pass your clear thinking on to us.

Wow I never realized that my love to myself was not love but conditional acceptance. You really opened my eyes! This is a big breakthrough for me THANK YOU

I think there is a true challenge of comparing yourself to a version you thought you would be by now, whether it is owning a home, starting a family, or just simply having your shit together. And often times, we don’t hear the struggles nearly enough of those who helped raise us. Those stories can help us understand more beautifully this thing we call life while helping us recognize how far our caretakers have come and how much effort it does take to get us to the point we currently are.

I realized after struggling with self love is that I never saw it in anyone around me , nobody loves themselves and they don't know what love is but they say it they try to act it out they "perform" joy and love and compassion but nobody is there there when you need them. I feel stagnant, suffocating from everyone including my close companions and I realized that love was care. just caring generally and learned it from a colleague at work the thing is I was very happy feeding of her expression of love but when she went on vacation I was emotionally poor again. I didn't know how to cultivate care for myself towards myself and Im still struggling with this. I feel good after eating a healthy meal but suddenly think that I will not do that again because I didn't deserve to feel good .... I reached a new low and really appreciate these videos. please make more about self love many of us are screaming silently

As soon as you began the baby metaphor, I teared up. I have had three babies, and I absolutely loved them unconditionally the second I saw them. They had only caused me pain at that point, but I loved them beyond description. So why don’t I treat myself like that?!

Heidi, do not apologize for not consistently making videos. We need you whole and healthy, doing what is best for you! We celebrate you and are excited for the work that you are doing! ❤️

Priebe, you are an absolute genius. The basic message of this video is so vital. Taken at face value, the words sound positive. A deeper look will move a thinking mind to see them as life-saving. The concept of not giving up on ourselves nor others in the process of growth is not only challenging but yields rewarding results and ultimately true strength and compassion.

To me, it's like playing a sport. Some things in life are going to be out of your control and potentially even against you. You're not going to make every play that you have the opportunity to make; your opponent is also going to make plays. This follows the mantra of "bend but don't break." You have to have a short memory and move on to the next play and work to do better, even if you just made the most recent play. The game isn't over until it's over. Likewise, your goal isn't over until you decide it is. Otherwise, you have potentially your lifetime to keep moving towards loving yourself and achieving your goals and living your most authentic life. No one play or missed opportunity defines the outcome of the game; it is the accumulation of the work that you put in, just like the eloquent example of the baby puking. Great video, and maybe my sports analogy helps further conceptualize this idea for those that may need to see it from a different perspective!

It kind of blows me away, how we can get to the bottom of what’s bothering us, by just sitting with ourselves for a little while. I’m so thankful for your channel Heidi. Such a helpful video. Keep up the great work.

Im 62, (troubled upbringing-mixed with many mistakes) Im going to keep going and love myself. Thank you Heidi.

When you mentioned about conditional love with the baby I cried :( Edit: I cried many many times in the video, thank you so much for showing how we can be kinder to ourselves. You're an amazing youtuber!

Heidi, your comments about sitting in a room with yourself and liking your own company has sent me on a path to find peace with myself. I’ve been trying to sit with myself with no distractions at all, and it has been such a surprising experience. I love it and am finding a way to prioritize it in my daily life. Amazing!

I found this self love, and my life changed as radically as in a rom-com. I needed to be on an antidepressant for 7 months to get there, but now no one can take it from me ^____^

That hit close to home when you spoke about go live with your aunt. Every time things got tough at home my mother always sent me away instead of trying to figure it out and be the mother she should have been.

Heidi i got my masters degree 25 years ago but recently dived into attachment theory. Until watching this video today I didn’t realize you are not a PsyD/PhD. I’ve grown even more in my relationship to myself. I’m inspired to become an attachment therapist. Hearing you mention that you are working on your degree encouraged me to know that I’m good enough to start working on content while in my PsyD program. The context of this lesson opened me up to realize what’s been holding me back. Thank you thank you thank you! You’re work is so important! Keep showing up for your own needs and making content when you can. ❤❤❤❤

I unexpectedly started crying in the middle of this video because it hit home so much. Thank you for putting out all of this information for free!