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Adele is Rolling in the Debt

I was very much like Adele at 23 and thought I needed lots of clothes to go out and have fun and attract men. It was so nice to have my own money and to spend it the way that I wanted! I got a tiny apartment that ate up almost 1/3 of my pay, but it was important to me to feel like an adult and have my own place. Still, I would run out of money on my low-wage entry-level job each month and go to Dad for an extra $20-40+ each month. In a way it made me feel cared for still as I dipped my toe into the adult world. When I was 25, my Dad died suddenly of a heart attack and my mother certainly could not support my financial extra needs each month anymore. I felt very "kicked from the nest", but I learned to stand on my own. Growing up is a process. It doesn't happen overnight. Adele can do it.

She would feel much more self confident if she learned to be more independent. She’s living life like a bored child. Her parents aren’t encouraging her to be a successful adult. I don’t understand her parents’ actions. I moved out at 19 and had a mortgage by 24. Only once I borrowed money from my dad and I paid him back as soon as I could. Loans between family members is a horrible thing. It can really damage family relationships.

I’m 22 and still live with my parents but I help mum out with money and always buy her things I support myself now and don’t need anyone else to do it for me

This is happening with so many young people. For some reason they feel entitled. I felt so sorry for her dad having to work extra shifts to pay for her stupidity. Sometimes it’s hard for parent not to give in , but how can these young people grow into responsible adults if you continue to feed their selfishness. I hope that things work out in their household and eventually she is able to leave home and manage within her means. Thank you for sharing, it does take a lot of guts to expose yourself too the world. Xx

I’m always amazed how people can spend so much in such a short time and have nothing to show for it..! They should do more of these shows to show what kind of debts lockdowns have left people with.

Her parents are 100% to blame for creating a spoilt brat. She was basically brought up to think that if she is has money trouble or needs extra money then it is fine to ask her parents, knowing that they would bail her out. Once she got some proper advise and boundaries set, she soon realized how life really works. The are many cases like this where the parents didn't set boundaries from an early age.

her mom says she wants her to understand the value of money but how can she when you never taught her that. You basically taught her that money grows on trees and the trees are mom and dad.

I like the fact that her parents love her, nice family 👪

“it’s tough to buy food and pay rent. it’s a quarter of my wage gone to nothing” welcome to the real world. and this was early 2000s when food and rent was cheap

I honestly watch these shows so i can help myself from my own hoarding and shopping issues. I used to own more than 80 pants (shorts, capris, skirts, leggings, gym wear another category) I never knew how much i owned until i categorized and counted and was very overwhelmed. Only then did i realize I HAD ISSUES. I had space so my clothes were just stacked here and there but really, how much do you only wear? I had to confront i had depression, sought therapy, watched shows where others were also experiencing the same thing. I’m so much better than before but still recovering.

oh the days of dresses with jeans and ultra low rise jeans with muffin tops. I don't miss em lol

What an amazing program. I wish we had these type of programs in US to teach young people about spending and taking responsibility of your life. Way to go British.

She needs additional interests and hobbies. The job being a makeup assistant will be good for her. There's nothing wrong with going out or shopping (if you can afford it), but it's not particularly rewarding. Accomplishing goals you set for yourself and pushing yourself physically, intellectually, and/or artistically will make your life more fulfilling. Not to mention make you a hell of a lot more interesting.

I REALLY feel for these parents because my mother's a shopaholic/spendaholic and when she was married to my Dad she almost put them in debt... she got fed up of him asking her to cut down on her spending and divorced him; she has now remarried and is repeating the same patterns with her new husband. Also, she has no problem spending over £1,000 pounds on clothes, shoes, makeup, stuff she doesn't need or use; but whenever I actually NEED something (like new summer clothes because I've grown out of my old ones; or new socks because my old ones are worn out with holes on them; or new shoes because they've been worn so much that the soles are coming off; or a new desk because the old one is broken; or school supplies like texts and stationary) she becomes so strict with money; she once refused to buy me a new pair of school shoes when she new full well that I couldn't wear my old shoes because they'd been worn out so much the soles had completely fallen off; I had to glue and tape the souls back on and the kids at school made fun of me. And often when I went to her for something I needed (like books and stationary for school/college) she would say "well you're Dad can pay for that"; when she knows full well that my Dad pays her over £100 child support for my upkeep, care and anything that I need or want, but she spends it on clothes, shoes, makeup and unnecessary things instead of the things I need.  It's gotten so bad that I've been searching for and applying for jobs so that I don't have to ask her OR my Dad for money.  I'm also a LOT more responsible than my mother; I don't go out very much apart from to go for walks and the occasional meet-up with friends; I rarely go shopping for clothes, shoes and things I don't need; instead spending the money I have (saved up from birthdays and Christmases) is spent on things I need like books, notebooks, pens, pencils, paints, paintbrushes and canvases, and I save the rest.

I moved out when I was 18 and wondered why I was broke all the time. I stopped getting drunk and high every weekend and I had money all of the sudden. Weird eh?

She looks like 1990s Baby Spice

The parents are to blame. The father needs to stop being an idiot and working all hours for a spoilt girl who should be supporting herself

Her behaviour is like this because not one single person holds her accountable for her poor decisions. Mum and dad are complete enablers in this situation

Adeles needed that Hello from the otherside.