Where did unique beauty go? Use your beauty flaws to your advantage

My hair is "too dark", my skin is "too pale", my nose is asymmetrical, and I'm tall but it's mostly in my torso and not my legs. I have mild rosacea and cellulite. I used to HATE myself more than most people could ever fathom. Today at 35 I'm a healthy, active, and beautiful human being. I can hike and run and paddleboard and bike for miles and miles. I'm smart and clever and I can either make people laugh or engage them in serious conversation, depending on what the situation calls for. I can play beautiful music on the violin, theremin, and lyre. I can paint beautiful portraits and botanical art. I can knit, crochet, nalbind, weave, and sew beautiful garments. I'm fucking awesome.

I would love if people stopped calling distinguishing characteristics flaws.

I love seeing old music videos when people had crooked teeth and acne scars and dodgy haircuts. People looked so real. 😂

I love watching 80’s movies for this exact reason! I love how everyone looks so different from each other. Even the men are starting to look like each other now!

I'm a portrait artist, and I find this "same face" trend horrifying! I use the uniqueness of a face to capture someone. And I worry about the children born to these people when at some point they realize they have the nose or eyes etc. that their parent deemed unacceptable. How can you teach self acceptance when you didn't accept yourself?😪

I used to work with a South Korean lady who candidly discussed having a "surgery fund" for her daughter so her kid can have work done at 13 and pass off as a "natural" beauty who looks like her mom. The lady herself had a ton of work done (it was good tbh, nothing over the top but still different from her old face). When she looks at her kid, she sees her old face and she hates it. I cannot even imagine having a culture that passes down astringent standards and one's personal trauma on to their kids, but she claims its normal for them.

"A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely." -Roald Dahl

I will never ever ever change my face. Embracing the beauty of who I am is an act of rebellion.

"There is no great beauty without some strangeness in the proportion" ~Edgar Allan Poe, From the short story "Ligea"

Internally, individualism is becoming stronger and externally everyone wants to look the same. damn scary.

As an Asian guy who hails from southern China, the rise of K-Pop stars and culture has given way to this “same face” phenomenon where slim, pale faces are desired. And yes, the eyelid surgery for eyes to become more Caucasian looking has started to take hold - it really really sucks, because when you’re adamant about not changing the way you look, but yet everyone around you is changing, it can feel like you’re doing something wrong.

A lot of women in my family have passed. I cherish seeing their features in the mirror every day.

It’s kinda hard to sell products when you embrace your natural features

The beauty standards of today are just awful. We’ve lost what makes us interesting and individually beautiful

How does this video not pop up on every teen girl's feed? They need to watch this. I was born in 2005 and there is some toxic stuff people keep feeding girls my age. GAls, we've gotta save younger girls from falling into the nonsense of needing to fit a certain beauty standard. 🤞🤞

This is all social media's fault. One of the many reasons why I deleted all my accounts. I was born in 1981 & remember being young before the internet existed. The girls of the 80's & 90's were the most beautiful. My favorite actress from that era is Fairuza Balk. Such a unique lady!

I’m a 19 year old girl. When I started growing up and losing my baby face my features started showing theirselfs. I got my father’s big croocked nose, my grandma’s small chin, my mom’s not very curvy body. At first I didn’t even realise how big my nose was, cause you know, that wasn’t what a 7 year old had in mind all the time. Then people started teasing and bullying me because of the things I wasn’t responsible of. Strangers, relatives, even my own parents were making fun of my features. And I want to highlight, they were all adults. Not children. Because children don’t care about those things. But somehow, It was bothering every adult around me. When I would cry about it - which happened very often- everyone including my parents would say, don’t worry! The medical field is very developed now. Just wait untill you are 18, you can get plastic surgery then. It’s nothing to worry about, it’s fixable. You just have to resist till that time. When I was 10 my parents forced me to get braces. I never wanted them. But appaerentally, my chin was something that should have been fixed immediatelly. Don’t get me wrong, it was completely healthy, just ugly. I refused the braces, I didn’t take good care of it because I hated it. I hated that even my teeth were something that had to be fixed. Everything about me was wrong and had to be fixed. I had them for 4 years, around 14-15 they took them out. The doctor said, because I was refusing to use the rubbers and other stuff you have to do to get your jaw pretty, there was nothing left he could do. So he took it out. My parents till this day whine about how they paid for me to be pretty but I refused, how ungrateful I am. Last year I turned 18. Everyone is constantly telling me to get plastic surgery. For my nose, chin, boobs. My self confidence is nonexistent. Since the day I gained consciousness of my appearance, I hated myself in every single second. I don’t remember a moment when I felt not even pretty, but normal. Children grew up, started adulting and my appearance started bothering them as well. Right now, all I want is to just exist. To just be, without people having any thoughts about my appearance. Good or bad, I don’t care, I don’t want any of them. I just want to cover every inch of me, so people would have no choice but to see only my inside. Me. Not the body I didn’t chose. Thank you for the video, really. It makes me feel at peace that people like you are still existing. 🌷🫶🏻

The only reason why Bella Hadid has a modeling career is because she's undergone so much work that she looks nothing like her real self.

Recently, I started to notice as well how almost all females are looking the same. Same blondish hair, same tanned skin, same latte makeup and filler lips and cheeks and eyes. All the funny stuff is when 25 years old is talking about wrinkles and botox and all the procedures they need to do to avoid those horrible wrinkles 😅 madness. Sometimes, I think people have lost their minds

What a relief that someone else is talking about this. Not only celebrities, look around your community. The same-face look has empty eyes. There’s a cold hardness, no buoyancy of spirit, no natural sparkle. It’s terribly sad and people are becoming totally boring.