Black Women Love Black Nerds

To those reading this and still hung up on it: You’re gonna carry that weight King. Was bullied relentlessly as a child for expressing my nerdiness and operating outside of “how a Black Man is supposed to act”. Went through hell and those hellish experiences will ALWAYS be valid. That being said, the Black Girls / Women in my childhood are not all, or even majority of Black Women - and I’m not going to generalize the Black Women of my future based on the Black Women of my past. I know it’s hard, but we gotta keep working towards healing from that past, and embracing the love we’re getting now.

i've been a black girl who is a nerd/geek u name it my WHOLE life, and almost everytime i meet other black male nerds, they spend more time complaining to me that no girls like anime or gaming, than actually talking to me 😭, so it's so tiring to hear them act like the black nerdy girls didn't want them when at the end of the day THEY didn't want us

I remember in high school I was called white by white people.

I'm a 37-year-old man I've been black and a nerd all my life and it has never harmed me in trying to talk to black women if anything it has only aided me because it gave me a uniqueness through my interest and perspective of life

I mean, I did get shit from black women for being a black nerd, but I also got fine black women who liked me still, so I think it is just a personality compatibility thing.

I'm a Black, nerdy guy and I've known plenty of Black, nerdy women. Heck, my cousin is a Black, nerdy woman. There was a time where I was considered an Oreo by my peers due to my nerdy interests. Nowadays, I don't really care about what people think of me.

I grew up in a predominately white neighborhood and state. I unfortunately, experienced a lot of anti-blackness and micro-aggressions amongst my peers. A white girl in my class in the 6th grade once told me I couldn't cosplay as Hinata from Naruto because I wasn't white. I had no community to connect too and it was difficult to establish friendships because my peers "didn't get me" or I didn't fit in. I developed a really low self-esteem and I at some point. felt ashamed of my blackness. But once I moved away as an adult to more culturally diverse state, I realized that I had nothing to be ashamed of and that there was nothing wrong me, it was quite literally my environment that was the problem. I'm glad I left my hometown lol

I’ve been a short black nerd since birth and I’ve had NO problems gettin with black women over the years cause I don’t use misogynoir as a tool for projection and internalized self hatred

“Our pain is horrible and our pain is valid, but our pain is not exclusive” 💯

liking a thug is a death sentence to get caught up in whatever godfather nonsense they got going on. as a black woman i much rather prefer some dude who will stay indoors with me to watch the new bleach arc

Just because you watch anime doesn’t mean you’re a nerd. 😂😂😂😂😂

As a black nerd, the main women who showed me love were black women. IDK why young black men dichotomize themselves as "thug" or "nerd" when there's so many more social facets and groups to fall into. There are black women who didn't like me growing up but there were ones that did. Growing up in a primarily non black environment, there were also just way more nonblack women (esp nerds) who didn't want me either. I've been with less "nerdy" girls in my life than "normal" girls, and looking the way I did back then didn't help either.

My now wife took me to watch her play DDR on our second date. She was the only black girl who was president of the Japanese club in high school (LOL) and DJs exclusive house and trance music. The girl was wearing suspenders when I met her 😂😂. She is my true soulmate and it’s the happiest I’ve ever been. We’re going to Tokyo this year for our delayed honeymoon and we can’t wait to geek out together. Black nerdy women also love black nerdy women and it’s a beautiful combination. So thank you for acknowledging something that has been an inherent truth for us :)

For every black nerd guy complaining about not being able to be seen by their female counterpart, there is a black nerd girl who has that same story, if she wasn't a 'dime' or had other desirable features, she was overlooked as well. It does more harm than good to try to play who has it worse, we all just need to be empathetic to each other's experiences and stop holding new potential partners to standards that didn't deserve. Many people do stop dating their own race based on a few experiences they had and that's very silly.

As someone who's been a "black nerd" my entire life and literally grew up surrounded by "hood" dudes and the like, I'll say this. No one has to like you. So many other "nerds" I knew in highschool barely had a personality. Talking about your favorite video games and anime all the time is not a personality. And many of the "nerdy" guys I knew in highschool were so uncomfortable around girls that some of them would literally be hostile towards them. I remember one of my best friends at the time was a super "nerdy" white guy and his girlfriend was so hot it blew my mind lol - but he was always himself no matter who was around, and he had a personality outside of anime and video games. I personally didn't know any "nerdy" blk girls in highschool, but many blk girls gave me attention, affection, etc, and would even tell me that they liked how smart I was. This myth that black girls/women are somehow drawn to stupidity is literally a white supremist trope, and a lot of these so called "black nerds" complaining are closeted white supremists, which is probably the conversation we should actually be having. Anyway, with that said, no one has to like you. Don't nobody owe you their time, attention or affection, except your parents. People need to grow up, check their own bias assumptions, and move on with their lives.

Things were bad back then, things are better now both in Africa and America. I remember back when I was in Africa while in Primary school being a nerd was basically a death sentence cause it meant everyone got the green card to treat you like crap. Then fast forward some years later in High School, being a black nerd was now normalized. The world is ever changing.

There is also a conversation to be had about black parents and the adultification of black boys contributing to the self loathing that many black nerdy boys feel growing up. The idea that having an interest in comics and anime is childish as opposed to something that stimulates the imagination plays a big part in this. All romantic interactions are tied to parental/domestic development and when parents invalidate the interests and passions of their children that is also a form of bullying.

I love black men who are nerds and geeks. Especially the black geeks! I hope to one day have a geeky, black family ❤

I loooveee this!!! As a black woman that used to be a professional comic con model this is sooo real! If I'm honest it was always black men that tried to invalidate me. It was like 2012-1215 so fortunately (or unfortunately) it wasn't too many in general but they were always the ones trying to challenge my audacity to be there or even discredit me all together. The white ppl (men and women) paid hella to take pics with me and appreciated the novelty of my presence but black women were like 70/30 in like 70% would just be excited in the environment and take me as a part of that experience, and bout 30% would get mad and feel like I was trying to get attention and just look sexy when at the end of the day I was paid to be there with like 20 other white women they didn't try to challenge 🤦 but with that said in regards to black men about 40% took the ladder and would also challenge me and about 56% completely tried to invalidate or discredit me in favor of the white models 🤷 was so weird to me and even tho at that time I was conscious enough to understand the situation it was still a eye-opening experience in regards to the reality of blackness in certain spaces.

thank you for this!! as a nerdy black girl, moving to the south changed my life. the black men down there are nerdy and fine... and love black women. it was amazing