Avoid Energy Drain from Toxic Family Members with Eckhart Tolle

No contact is the correct answer

Id rather be alone and in peace than be around interering and toxic family members,my wwll being comes first.

He is absolutely correct. I was gone basically 30 years before I came back to live where I was born, reared, and grew up, and it was "the same old thing." I stayed for nearly 5 years before I had had enough and relocated back to where life was better in every sense: Tennessee.

You cannot FORGIVE someone who never changes their BEHAVIOUR

"Forgive them because they don't know"... ❤❤❤

Forgive them, for they don't know any better.

They don't know that they are trapped in it. As my therapist put it, "it's normal to them."

Nonreactive is right. My now deceased father made a remake which was designed to upset me. It was clear that he hadn't changed and thought I was the same. I looked at him, turned my head, then turned my body, and walked away. As I was boarding my car, I see him peripherally staring and speechless. I entered my car, seat belt, ignition, and drove away. That would be the last time that I would see him in reasonably good health. The next time he was incognizant due to ministrokes. I left his hospital room and never went back. 1.5 years later, I relocated back to Tennessee. About 1 year after that, he passed away. I didn't return to Maryland for the funeral. While he was my father and there is love there for that, our relationship lacked any real quality otherwise.

not reacting was not the solution in our family, it only increased being neglected and disrespected

Adding music really spoils this.

Another lovely attempt from our "Inner child", but clouded by Eckhart's mystical charm. Our "nuclear" families or even rarely assembled "extended" families of origin are mere recent artifacts of our ancestral clan social structures, in which our Hunter-Gatherer ancestors thrived for tens of thousands of years when we were "conditioned" right down to the gene level for success in the natural environment, now long gone. We are fish out of water and our disconnected, alienated nuclear families of the diaspora are the closing chapter in the human experiment. What could go wrong? Everything? Stress R Us

How to know when to leave toxic family?

I spent a wonderfull time with my unconscious wealthy parents who aged and no longer felt a need to judge, and were just needing my unconditional love and compassion after over 30 years of absence.. ❤

As others have mentioned: No need for added music; it is distracting. Thank you.

He is absolutely correct regarding presence with parents and why it's required even the more: the past, at least mine, is littered with a lot of painful experiences, painful words and actions that require one to be deeply rooted and grounded in mindfulness, otherwise, unconsciously you will think you are reliving one those events right then there and will react. For me, after I saw that it was still the same old thing, I did the conscious thing and distanced myself, accepting that, parents or not, some people don't and will not change and I must make self-care the priority. Consequently, I distanced myself and eventually relocated back to Tennessee, but with new insight and the fortitude that their presence in my life is not a requirement for my happiness 🙏

Please dont add music! It takes away from listening, thank you. (People can add their own….)

Here is an example that just came back regarding their conditioning. Long story short: My surrogate brother said something to me out of surprise regarding my attire. My response was, more or less, that was applicable when I was a child. Later, I thought about it and concluded that, if he still thinks that I think like that (when I was a child), what does that say about the way that he thinks now? So when he says that they are trapped in it, he is absolutely correct.

Parents be like... It does make sense or not.... But we're right 🤥

Is it possible to forgive parent for her continuous harming behaviour? She is manipulative

Thank you 👓