"Disabled people need to stop complaining."

You were right to point it out. Most people don't see it. They don't mean to block the access of others. It takes training. It takes retraining. This happens with bikes on ramps, packages blocking access, and so on. Keep doing what you know to be right. Thank you for your hard work!

I made a suggestion to Amazon that they make it possible to request lower lockers when asking for delivery to a locker. They did it within months. A great result. I didn't complain, just pointed out an issue and suggested a solution. I am always glad when companies listen.

to all the normies that say disabled people are complaining, you could at any time become disabled in a second. then you will be the one complaining.

I've lost count of the times I've been told to stop complaining when I've been trying to highlight an issue. The worst was when I was when someone essentially told me I should start 'helping myself' before asking others to help, I tried explaining 'no, this issue exists because I can't, as you say 'help myself.' [in this specific situation]' I think a lot of it comes down to the fact that able bodied people see the issues we face as disabled people from their perspective. So it looks to them like we're making a mountain out of a mole hill. I have a friend who used to be able bodied, and would often be dismissive of the struggles I faced with my disability. Sadly, a few years ago something happened which left them with a disability remarkably similar to mine. He later apologised to me for his pre-disability attitude. I think what is needed in society is more empathy.

I have DEFINITELY shut my mouth in my industry (I'm an opera singer) in the past to avoid getting labeled as a diva complaining about something, when really I'm just advocating for my access needs and for those of others in operatic spaces! People really want disabled people to be the Inspirational Disabled Person so much that we're in the end expected just to smile and take any ableism, ignorance, or ab*se that comes our way - because we're only able to be inspirational to nondisabled folks if we "overcome" every single one of the barriers we face magically by ourselves, outside of nondisabled people's view. If we advocate, we're highlighting the problems within their view, and that doesn't jive with the Inspiration Disabled Person stereotype... which means we're being negative, just seeking attention, or complaining. (Not sure if that makes sense, the brain fog is REAL today!) Loved your Insta reel and shared it immediately when I saw it! So glad it got the virality it deserved! ✨

Since I'm an ambulatory wheelchair user, I know any curb around my home and gave his/her names. Before, I don't even recongnize curbs. That's how perspective changes if you are disabled. I wish, people without disability would believe us, if we report struggles. Even if they cannot understand the problems a hundred percent.

When I became disabled, my family completely disowned me, calling me "defective."

I love your videos. I saw the other one about the packages. I have a table outside foe packages. My normal UPS driver and Amazon drivers are very helpful with packages. I took your catch phrase and made a sigh for on my door. "BE A CHAMP..DON'T BLOCK THE RAMP" I love your positive attitude and everything you do to bring awareness. THANK YOU.

I saw a video that said that handicapped stalls in public bathrooms can be used by everyone, I wrote no it's not because disabled people who need access only have one stall available to them and non disabled people usually have several other options available to them. They responded that I should just get over myself and wait in line like everyone else. I have experienced staff/employees who are not disabled using the disabled stalls as a telephone booth and standing in the stalls talking on or texting on their cell phone. I have repeatedly reported this behavior to the manager on duty in public places like restaurants and stores.

Once I had a store manager tell me I needed to pay for some damage the back of my motorized chair caused, when I was trying to get out. I told him sure, but first I would need to call the fire department as my chair is exactly the proportions required by fire safety regulations for businesses to stay open (which is true), and he would probably NEED MY money while he was closed down to get the clearance issues fixed so he could reopen, and I was really glad his sheet rock wall had not damaged my $10,000 motorized chair due to the required clearance not being in place, but that I should probably call the repairman to make sure.

I am not disabled but have 2 sons on the autism spectrum. I follow a few disabled youtubers and it has opened my perspective to different realities that I would not even have thought about before. We each live with our own perspective. Your content is important and it is not complaining when something we simply never had to think about (even within the disability community when the disabilities are not the same) would be easy to do and not take any kind of real effort for able bodied people to make your life easier. You are not asking for a head on a silver platter but to not create more obstacles.

I’m so glad it went viral, it really is such an issue! The claiming that didn’t happen is the worst way to engage in conversation, it’s so frustrating.

Privilege is invisible to the privileged.

I know exactly what you mean, I use both a stick and a wheelchair, its awful when things are just dumped in access routes, I usually get my foot caught, which causes my knees to slip and lock up, outcome = falling and being laid up for the day, on wheels its a major obstacle and not always moveable without help. Ablism sucks, but it happens, what those people who say nasty things don't realise is they are one accident away from permanent disability.

I work in retail, and a department was having some building work done and this meant that some disabled bays was going to be removed and I argued the fact that your taking away disabled bays for colleagues and that they had to replace them as it’s discrimination as there is no access to the building for colleagues. So they have now added new bays and they have made exceptions the those which have a disability that they can use other entrances to the building

It's not complaining to talk about an issue that's negatively affecting us. Like my current bugbear of people charging electric cars and leaving the wires all over the pavement where they're a trip hazard.

Weird thing is, I lived with my auntie and gran when I was a child, my auntie was in a wheelchair, so i was aware of a lot of the difficulties around it. But I was nowhere near knowing all the difficulties until finding myself in a wheelchair. Simple things too. You just don't think about them until you're confronted with them yourself. Even with an upbringing around a person in a wheelchair. So I can easily imagine healthy people not seeing or understanding the eventual problems.

As a less abled person living in West Sussex, I do hear some other disabled pople complaining a lot - BUT YOU DO NOT!.. your videos are always so positive and light and always a good watch and please Do No give a hoot about what others think or say - i know the comments can be very harsh sometimes - But your channel is a light-hearted and informative way of disability and getting everything WC and Disability and of course your travel vlogs, you have made me look into going to New Zealand and i booked to go in march 24!!.. keep doing an amazing job Gem! x

So proud of you!!! For saying something, suggesting an alternative and wrapping it up in a bow of comedy and empathy! Legend, I'm really glad Amazon picked it up, that really is the goal. And if people didn't say anything about wrongdoings, nothing would change. Keep it up Gem!

I get a lot of stuff from Amazon. They were leaving boxes on the floor outside my door and I could not pick them up. I left a polite sign on my door asking the delivery drivers to knock and place the package in my lap. They did not do this. So I placed a stool to the side of my door saying 'Amazon packages only'. This has worked. Then my housing association told me I could not have the stool outside my door as it is a fire risk! I made a complaint, and the only thing I heard is that they were waiting to hear back from the fire department. So I put another polite note for my housing association next to my stool. I am still waiting for the housing association to swipe my stool. Meanwhile, it really helps with the packages.