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As a biologist, who was rejected while being MADLY in love and attached, having the molecular basis knowledge that "your brain is just going crazy right now, stop, feel it and it will pass" truly kept me sane

she managed to be so factual, straightforward and scientific yet didn't come off as robotic.

“The vast majority of people that are truly in love don’t cheat.” Thank you for this.

I wanna know her thoughts about people who “fell out of love”

"The human brain is not made to deal with more than 5-9 options. After that, the brain just.. spaces out." Duuude, that explains why when people ask what my favorite movie, or even just a name a movie, I instantly forget every movie I've ever seen or heard of.

"Love is primordial, adaptable, it is eternal." Can we just take a minute to appreciate that this woman is simultaneously scientific and poetic? Edit: 57k? insert requisite "hey maaa! I'm famous!" comment

Her saying that time does actually does help us heal because it’s a survival mechanism makes the idea of really sitting and waiting out those feelings more bearable. And makes me feel less bad for taking a long time to get over someone

"You have to be ready to fall in love to actually do it". This right there.

I love how she states her answer in the topic sentence then explain it. This is like listening to a well written and enjoyable essay.

She NEEDS her own YouTube channel to talk about Love. Please make it happen

Cheating is not about love or lack of love. It’s about morals and respect. It’s about not crossing the line you set for yourself and choosing not to hurt the person you say you love.

For the heart I'm surprised she didn't mention that when you experience a breakup, you feel an immense, heavy, literal physical pain in your heart.

She should really make a ted talk, a podcast, some sort of channel. She explains so well.

I was delighted that she did not take a negative view on how technology has changed dating and relationships. She simply addressed our own misuse of it. I happen to want a stable, romantic "old fashioned" relationship, so it is good to hear that online dating has not eradicated the chances of me meeting a man who wants that as well.

Shout out to the aro/aces who constantly rediscover they're aro/ace

As an a person on the asexual spectrum who is very anthropologically oriented, I find this very validating because it really shows that there are so many parts of the brain involved in love and that love is still very much a real and fulfilling experience, even if we don't experience every possible aspect of how many people express and experience love!!!

If she was a writer, she would be a great writer at romance genre, or at character building in general.

I'd be really curious to hear what she has to say about asexuality and aromantic people.

When she described the difference between romantic and platonic love, I was so surprised. She said the difference was the obsession, the drive, etc, and I distinctly remember feeling that same way about people l would never consider a romantic interest. I've also never experienced romantic love as others describe it, never had a romantic crush, but I've had people i feel very strongly about wanting to befriend and bond with, sometimes even suddenly. Just like she said for romance, I've never had more than 4-5 people at once that I feel might become a platonic crush, and never more than one full blown platonic crush at once. I wonder if aromanticism could be attributed to the brain's romance region functioning a little differently than most people and doubling down on platonic attachment instead of romance.

I adore this woman. I want to read everything she's written.