7 SELF CARE Mindset Habits that will improve your life

I'm a cognitive behavior therapist and I can confirm not just you, it is science that worrying increases worrying. The worrying behavior gets reinforced by the feeling of "doing something about it", even it's only in our heads. So it gives a feeling of being in control when you don't actually accept the uncertainty. It is like giving a treat to a dog, a very simple behavior pattern. BUT worrying is actually very difficult to be conscious about and difficult to stop, just like any reinforced behavior, as it might have been going on uninterrupted for years, decades even. After stopping worrying you might feel a little empty or like you "forgot something". Anxiety may also go up for a while or it may be more physical, experienced through the body. But these things will pass. Good advice, great video 😊

I think one quote that helps me whenever I get in the spiral of worry and anxiety is “If there is a solution to a problem, there is no need to worry. And if there is no solution, there is no need to worry” -Dalai Lama

When I'm afraid or nervous or anxious. I read psalm 91 and really focus on exactly what each verse promises. And I immediately feel better because I know those promises come from God and he never lies. So Psalm 91 has been a huge blessing to me for several years. And I read it every single night and have full confidence that he will take care of me.

Here in the USA, we take productivity to equal your worth as a human. As I struggle with chronic illness, I’m “not productive” in any way. A shower is a day long event and then it’s back to bed. Getting my HSP head wrapped around the truth that I’m worthwhile simply because I am alive is very counterintuitive. Your lovely videos align with many biblical beliefs and long term therapy that joy comes in those small spaces, like sitting in a sunny window, a surprise text from a friend, feeling the wind on my face, a cup of tea etc. Seeing your beautiful face and hearing you is truly a great joy in my life! Be well dear Vera. You inspire and bring such healing to the weary heart ❤️‍🩹 ❤

Self care changes with your season of life. When I had tiny kids, just watching tv with them was self care. As I got older, it was spending time on fitness. Now in my 60s it's focusing on my business and having my day's schedule totally under my control.

Vera, I did something out of the box today and did yoga in my backyard on the grass. I have neighbors all around me and I chose not to care. And then- because of you - I did the STAR pose and oh my goodness… I got chocked up. Not sure why but it was a neat moment and even a little bit of a shift. Here’s to good health and us being ok with taking up space and feeling worthy! ⭐️🌟✨💫

Thank you. I embraced my fear this morning and asked for more time at work today. I love your channel. I've been hiding behind overspending to avoid understanding I don't earn enough money to cover basic things like the dentist. I am getting better at limiting my spending and paying my debts first. Just accepting this is where I am at without distress is a great start. My eating habits and home stability is much better than it's been in years now. I should be clear of immediate debt by my birthday and then I can look at booking a teeth clean. I have no family to talk with and next to 0 friends so thanks You Tube and channelers for providing some kind of environment where I can share my own experience and witness others too. Thanks again Simple Happy Zen!

The biggest help I have with my anxiety is by remembering my mantra…. “Feelings aren’t facts.” it doesn’t always work but it helps . I also like to remember “act as if.” I have tremendous anxiety about my daughters, safety and health, and I try to remind myself to continually to act as if everything is fine and it probably will be.

Hi Vera, What has helped me to stop overthinking and worrying about a situation is I've recently started telling myself, "I'm going to do an experiment! Let's see what will happen if I don't worry about it. Let's see what happens!" And each time nothing happens! And then I see that I haven't wasted my time and emotions and nervous energy turning the situation into a big problem and I avoid a big tension headache as well! Have a good week! Thanks for another meangful vlog. ❤ Sue

I know of artists that put imperfections in their work so that it is not perfect. Reason-Only God is perfect. Keeps us real, human, kind, and humble. 💕

#4!!! My needs are not a burden. Boy did I need to hear that. I have set a few boundaries recently and had people blow right past them and I was the one who ended up feeling bad...like I was the burden and not good enough

Very beautiful footage of swans and ducks. We are very similar, you and I. You’re helping me a lot, my little faraway friend. Thank you from Canada.

First one is SO relatable. I’ve bern working on undoing this mindset - I really don’t need to track how many books I read in a year or how much I meditated this week. The point is, do I feel good after? Not being such an overachiever has been key for my recovery (ME/CFS and Fibromyalgia).

I absolutely love the way you incorporate ducks and swans into your videos. One of my favourite things is to go to my local parks to watch them swimming. So therapeutic and soothing 😊

That bit about even if no one sees me brought something to mind. Looking your best doesn't have to involve uncomfortable polyester work or event clothes which may not even be most flattering to you or wearing a face of full coverage all out make up. You absolutely can fix up in a cozy, comfy, more natural leaning way.

I too must talk myself out of worrying. We shall keep at it.

I am such a big worrier and can imagine the wildest thing ever if i don't stop myself!!😅 But once I heard someone say "If you are creative enough to imagine it, you are creative enough to solve it/deal with it". And this has helped me ever since🥰😄

Vera, I really identify with the mindset that it does not help to worry. So unless there is a real reason, I don´t, and even if there is, I don´t. I do what I can and trust that others will help, like doctors for example. I started thinking like that when I was taking exams. Worrying doesn´t help, on the contrary. I studied as much as I could and then just did my exams as calmly as possible. That always worked, same with the dentist. I´m not scared any more, even if he has to do something unpleasant, I trust in his expertise and being as gentle as possible. It makes life so much easier. Thanks as always for a wonderful video. You are doing such a great work encouraging people, bringing sunshine and joy into our lives. I hope you never stop being part of our lives.

So true that we're taught that self-care should be in service of productivity. That is a mindset shift I've been tackling lately. I would even venture to say that it should be the other way around. The best kind of productivity is one that grows and hones our skills and talents, which are aspects of self-care.

This came with good timing for me, because recently I decided that I need to make a big mindset shift. Three activities that have helped me so far are: 1. Have an image in my head of what it’s gonna be like when I’m ”done”, and that’s what I meditate on daily while on walks or whenever I have the mental space/time for it. 2. Make a vision board that I put on my wall, acting as a reminder of why I’m doing this and how I’m gonna get there. 3. Journaling about my mindshift journey in the mornings. This makes it easy for me to look back and see progress. It’s a lot of work but also a fun process. Especially since it gets easier with practice, just like you said.